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This is my first time here, I have come to ask for advice or maybe just vent.
I have been a foster parent for 3 years, all have been temporary, we were not really interested in adopting. We always got along with the SW's and everyone in DYFS.
Our recent foster child started out as one that would only be here for a short time, but it has been almost 6 months and we know for a fact that bmom and bdad are not following their plan and have said they do not intend to, (as per the childs family, who we happen to know).
Law Guardian met with us 2 weeks ago, as court is coming up and she said that there is a good chance she will stay as there is no other family interested.
Well, SW has a different story than the law guardian and the family. She says the family member (we are good friends with) wants FC, I know that not to be true. Why would she do that? Does she just not like us?
Does the Law Guardian or the SW have more say in court? How is it we are getting 2 different stories from SW and LG (and the families story is the same as the LG)?
SO confused :(
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Is there any chance the family you are good friends with are telling you one thing and telling the SW another? Is there a chance SW asked them for socials and dates of birth and the family gave her the info but doesn't really want the kids?
I haven't been doing this very long at all but my experience has been that the CWs know a lot more about the details of the kids' family than the law guardian. My kids LG has been relying on me for a lot of info as DYFS doesn't always give the LG updates on what's going on.
As far as I know, DYFS handles investigating relative placement options. The LG's office doesn't. That's not to say the LG won't be able to give an opinion about whether a move is in the child's best interests but I have been told by the LG that DYFS moves kids w out even letting the LG know in advance. Every time the LG calls me, he asks if the kids are still w me so I asked him once how they could be moved w out him being involved. He said it happens all the time.
I really hope it doesn't happen like that for you (or me!) - maybe this is all one big miscommunication? I wouldn't think it has anything to do w the SW not liking you...
Good luck!
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