Colling family found

Congrats! Glad both your adoptive family and natural family are on board together! Your world has just gotten bigger. :)

That's good news

So had wonderful call with my sister between 11-2:45 it was hard for both of us to end the call. We are a lot a like from sounds of it. One of my aunts I will talk to in couple hours my jaw needs to rest. Learned she thought about adopting me from my bio mother.

That is great news and enjoy your reunion :banana:

Well in a week I meet my sister and one aunt. Happy to say have had email contact with my Bio mom. I am getting nervous now with meet coming up. They will be here for two days.

Congrats :banana: Enjoy :cheer:

Well sad to see them go. I was really stressing about the meet. NO reason to be. They are awesome. My family was great with them entering our lives. I am farm girl. I train and breed horses and dogs. They are city people. I was worried about them no liking country life, but the really enjoyed it. My sister loves my horses and went to visit them a lot. I had sore foot so we did not get to go riding, but next time. First day we sat around visiting outside. Next day went to lake, walk in aunt and uncles tree field. Played with young horses. It was great weekend. Every thing felt natural with them. Hope others reunions go just as well as mine did

Well things kind of turned around. After first meeting in May we had far less contact or should say they did. I contact by email weekly. In August I booked trip down to where they are made sure time frame was good. Well went from Oct 4th-9th to where they are. Stayed part of time with some of my adopted family members and other with my bio sister and an aunt. Well getting bit head of self some. Still after booking trip hardly had contact until Sept. Week before leaving for trip had many phone calls with sister. So was real excited at this point. Well got there and spent 48 hours with them. Well relatives planned to meet kept canceling. I did get to meet my Bio mother, but only short time "90 minutes", as my aunt and sister had plans for us for afternoon and wanted to get to it! After over hour and half drive we went to thing they wanted to do for 10 minutes then back into car and aunts place. That is how every outing went. I much rather would of spent that time in car with my bio mother or other relatives. Well after 48 hours I was feeling down. My time meeting relatives was not going well. Any outings planned did not happen or only for 10-20 minutes after 90-120 minutes on road. So was feeling down. Well after 48 hours plan was for me to go back to adopted family memebers for 1 days and spend some time with them. Then the following day spend with my bio sister and aunt again. Well that day with my adopted family members which was a favorite aunt of mine as well my uncle and cousins. We had such a good time. But in back of my mind still thinking about myy bio family and how everything was not fun with them and not meeting any other bio family members like always planned. And I was feeling down when around them. So I made a choice. I emailed instead of calling my sister and told her my flight back home was booked wrong date and I was leaving the next day not the following. I hade such an awesome time with the adopted family members that last day. I did not feel guilty at all on cutting things short with bio family. As I had not been feeling good about my time with them. It is three weeks later and no real contact with them since my last day with them. And for most part I feel fine about it. There are times I am down. But what I have learned this last month is that I am so lucky to have the family I got. Which I always had thought. But now I 100% know. Thanks to adoption I have much better life!! I am glad my first meet with them in May was good or I would not of wanted any thing to do with them, if it had gone like visit in Oct. I have decided if they want face to face contact they will just have to come to me. And I will keep in contact with them, but only if they choose to keep in contact. I am not putting in all the work! I am so glad I met my bio mother. I was able to thank her for giving me the gift of life and the family I have. I would of loved more time with her. She is a wonderful woman. Well that is my update for now

I know this is an old posting but I just read it. I think it is so wrong that your aunt and sister limited your time with your bmother. That is the most important relationship in reunion IMHO. The fact that she is ill makes it imperative that you spend as much time with her as possible. I am sorry you were denied that. Have you been able to go back for another visit with empathise put on spending time with her? I hope you haven't decided to stop contact based on that visit. You did say you wished you had been able to spend more time with her. I hope you have had that chance. If not, make the trip and be firm that your primary reason for the trip is to see your bmother and would also like to see your sister and aunt but for them to not make any other plans. Good luck!!