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Hi all,
I recently found my son that I gave up for adoption when I was 15. He was conceived through rape and I felt like I needed to be honest and truthful with him. He was happy that I was and things seemed like they were moving in the right direction. He expressed that he had always had love for me and I confirmed to him that I felt the same.
Lately it seems I'm not able to get a response when contacting him. I feel like I've done something wrong. I'm just not sure what to do. Any suggestions?
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How old is your son? My son was not quite 20 when we made contact. Sometimes it takes him a few weeks to a month or more to respond to my emails or fb chats. Some of that has to do with him being a 20 year old boy. Some of it has to do with him still living at home and having conflicting feelings about being loyal to his parents and having a relationship with me. Some of it has to do with having a full time job, having lots of friends, and being active in his church. He's just really busy. It is so hard when you wait so long to meet them and then they are so slow to respond to you. :grr: Hang in there!
He's 32 and we have met in person last year. I'm due to fly back out next month to visit, I'm not staying with him I have friends one hour away. His mom and dad want to meet me and I have corresponded with her, she's very sweet and sincere. Maybe I'm expecting too much but he just seemed so eager at first he would call or text me at least once a week now nothing?Oh well I'm a little lost.
My bson was 32 when I met him. He was newly married and having kids, etc. Our direct communication, mostly email, was very frequent and then dropped a lot. We lived about 2 hrs apart at that point and they invited us to a lot of events at their home (they liked to party). Six years later they have moved farther away and are about to move even farther way. We have a very comfortable relationship but are not in constant contact. (That's true of the 2 children I raised as well.)All that said, it sounds like he's not going anywhere especially if you have a meeting set up. He could be nervous about you meeting his aparents.
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Oh okay, now I have some perspective, I have a 24 year old daughter and we are very close and talk everyday, sooo I'm prolly comparing relationships. I guess I had some expectations after we met and it went extremely well.I'm just gonna take it slower than I was, but I'm thankful for your advice/experience. We will see how it goes!