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Hi there! I have read alot in the past regarding "wearing babies" for attachment to the mother,and was wondering if anyone here has done that.
Our attachment therapist also recommends it. When we adopted our two youngest ones at age 5 months and 1 yr, I wore them in slings,too. (not at the same time ,lol)
Just curious if anyone has done this with a child older than 2? Our next placement (hopefully) is 2 years old. I know he was premature, and possibly small for his age.
and what is the best type of sling for any older child? The one I have now, is a ring type sling... I think it's called a Maya wrap?
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Our sbad came to us at 25 months. It took a little while before she was comfortable being worn for more than a few minutes, but at 3 she loves being in the sling or in the Ergo!I think the Maya Wrap is fine, unless you have a heavy child. I like the Ergo so I can wear her on my back while I work in the kitchen...
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Baby/Toddler wearing is good for bonding but so are other things.- Cuddling (while reading together or watching movies).- Eating the same food while you feed him/her "baby bird" style, one bite at a time directly into his/her mouth.- Co-sleeping (for naps only or all the time)- Rocking at bedtime- Carrying child (even without swing)- Playing together- Exploring together- Doing skill-building activities together (garden, puzzles, house projects, etc)- Singing silly songs or doing hand poems- Dancing together- Doing house chores together (sorting laundry, washing dishes, etc)And so many more things! Bonding happens when you live life together, the same as it does with friends or spouses. Give him/her tons of love and lots of attention. Delight in him/her and tell him/her so often. Give him/her room to explore their world. Be his/her "safe base" and encourage separation from you. All these things will help him/her grow to be a healthy adult, who is able to form good attachments with his/her own child.It's worth the investment.
At 2 he will have definite likes and dislikes. Let him show you the way to his heart. I like all the other suggestions. My kids loved rocking (even my son who came to us at 6)
If he it doesn't break your back, by all means try the sling!
Just keep in mind that if he doesn't respond well there are so many other ways to form attachment. Let him lead or you will become frustrated... BTDT :(
Kiddos to you for being so aware!