Searching for male birthchild dob 9/16/70

May 25, 2012

I have a dilemma.

At this point in my search (after almost 42 years) I have taken all of the steps to get as much information needed to find my birthson.

My daughter (who encouraged me to make this decision) googled the birthdate, found someone on Facebook, that he was adopted at 2 weeks old, and that he was raised in Colby, KS.

So far the birthdate matches, the age of adoption is within 2 days, hometown is only 100 miles from the county where that the adoption was handled.

This young man is an accomplished songwriter/singer of Christian music. He wrote a song to his birthmother about 4 years ago, and has a video telling the story about the writing of the song. (Very moving to say the least) At that time he wasn't actively looking for his birthmother, and no where have I found anything that leads me to believe he is looking presently.

I gave birth to my son 9/16/70 at Booth Memorial in Denver CO. The adoption was finalized on 9/24/70 thru the Cheyenne County, CO Dept of Public Welfare.

My search ends at the stateline of Colorado and Kansas.

Too many coincidences to ignore.

Do I send him a message on Facebook (he may think I am a stalker), or write a letter via his agent, publicist.

I want to rule him out completely before continuing my search by going thru the Colorado non-profit agency that hires investigators.

If anyone has any suggestions, I would appreciate them.

lostmother2012

May 26, 2012

If I was in your shoes I would want to make contact but at the same time with caution. Eight years ago I was in a similar situation to you but not through Facebook. My son had joined up with a site I belonged to and due to what he posted I had the indication he was searching but some of the information was slightly wrong. I contacted him pointing this out cautiously. He responded by asking if I was whom he thought I was so it was a relief to know he was prepared to correspond with me.

If you contact him via Facebook you could do it on the lines that you have seen the video and that it moved you. That way it's not going to frighten him and it opens up a line of communication if he chooses to write back.

If you contact his publicist by letter you can use the line of seeing the video and it touched you because you a first mother who surrendered a son. You can put enough information in the letter without appearing to be a stalker.