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I am so sorry. And that sounds like a pretty insensitive thing/way to tell you. I hope they were more gentle about it and that they did not act short with you for inquiring.Quite frankly, at this point, I wouldn't give a @#$% if they are annoyed that you ask. I'd be asking at least once a week and then maybe they would find out what is going on with either the adoption authority or their in-country rep. In fact, maybe you should just point blank ask them who the problem is with--the authority or their rep. I usually make my husband be the bad guy. You are paying them tons of money!I am becoming enraged for you. And the honest to goodness real problem I would have is just the uncertainty. I HAVE been in the exact situation with foster to adopt here in the states and everyone let us linger in the unknown instead of just telling us they were working on an issue. It is just plain better to know if a problem has arisen or not.Stay strong and do not let anyone guilt you for demanding answers. It has been way too long a wait. Did you ask if this length of time is normal? If so, how many of their other parents dealt with this? What are the contacts for some because you'd like to talk to one for support? Don't just take any answers they give you--dig. But that is just the attorney in me coming out.I feel for you and am keeping you in my thoughts. Keep us updated, please.
I don't think we followed the exact same process you are following, so our time between trips was only 2 weeks. When we traveled the first time, we had I-800 approval in hand, our attorney handled the first court hearing, we traveled for our first trip, going to court at the end of the trip, had one week of our waiting period shortened, and then we traveled back after two weeks. Our second trip was 10 days, and the kids were legally ours the day we landed in Poland for the second trip. That means from our first trip to our last day, it was a little over 5 weeks.Now, in the states, the time between I-797 and I-800 was about 3 weeks.You should have the name and info about the officer processing your case at USCIS. You can call her/him directly and ask what the status of your paperwork is, they don't mind & ours returned calls within a day usually. If you're waiting on paperwork from Poland, I don't know what the hold up could possibly be. Have you already been to court one time? If so, are you past the waiting period & the kids are yours? If you haven't been to court for that hearing, I'm not sure what you will do next in Poland?
I think our process is similar to Zenoria's. We got everything we needed basically with our referral, we were not required to do the initial contact visit (it is at the discretion of the judge), we filed our i800 a week after our referral and our i800 was approved 18 days later. We had our travel dates a few weeks after that. We travel for our two week bonding in a few weeks, I will stay for the appeal period and then return with our child after basically one 6 week trip.Poodle, NO paperwork whatsoever? I don't understand, how can they ask you to travel to meet a child without the full medical records/Article 16 as required under Hague? Technically, isn't first contact (if required) supposed to happen after a referral? In my understanding, under the Hague definitions a "referral" requires full medical disclosure/i800 documentation and opportunity for a medical expert's review if required. But I could be wrong.
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I'm wondering the same thing -- I thought under Hague guidelines, you had to have paperwork in hand before accepting a referral/travel occurs. I can't imagine, given the experience we had, that the Polish authorities would let you travel without paperwork having been sent first. That said, I've never heard of a first contact visit that didn't culminate in a court hearing, so maybe my sample of friends/family who have adopted is too narrow in this respect. The guardianship centers are pretty particular about letting kids meet foreign PAPs, so I wonder if the issue is with your agency in point of fact, and not Poland?