DCF saying no to Open Adoption Agreement

I'm in NY and learned that even through a TPR, the judge could still grant visitation post adoption, which may not be the same in MA. I think the time to negotiate with the Dad would have been before the TPR in trying to have him surrender his parental rights. But since TPR has been granted and he's appealing, I don't think you have any standing to offer to settle at this point. I think you just have to wait it out - which is the risk with TPR.