Does the LYING ever stop????

7 years post adoption, 14-yr-old seems to be healing (moderate, anxious/aggressive RAD), also FASD and ADHD, but... Took her off sleep med (was an anti-depressant, Mirtazapine) due to chronic constipation. She SAYS constipation is gone now (I haven't checked, but will given today's revelation). AND she's supposedly sleeping OK because she's been more active and I added "Scottish Oatmeal" which apparently has melatonin and tryptophan). But I found empty food containers in fridge this morning (that weren't empty last night), so clearly she's raiding kitchen again during night. I'm resolved to just give up on the food thing--her early history has made her a nighttime wanderer and that will never change. The only thing I can do is lock up the meds and other dangerous things and just try to ignore it. BUT...why tell me that she's sleeping through the night instead of the truth that she's waking and struggling to get back to sleep (which is when she gets up to wander, sometime between 11:30 pm and 6 am). Ugh...her instinct is to lie at any question and so I've learned to phrase them correctly, "Did you go downstairs to the kitchen after you heard Dad get up for work, or was it before?" and I'm getting at the truth more often this way. But not always, and not this morning! :mad: My point here is WILL THIS "CRAZY LYING" EVER STOP, or should I expect to be visiting my child in jail eventually?! Will she EVER be able to have a normal relationship based on trust with ANYONE (even a partner some day)??? She hasn't been in attachment therapy for 2 years because her therapist thought she was healing just fine and we could continue our therapeutic parenting that we're "so good at" (ha! I wish!) even though therapist knew at that time that she was still lying, stealing from classmates, and wandering during night! I KNOW she needs AT, but there's nobody else near us. :hissy: I'm just at a loss. I cannot bond to this child as I can never trust anything that comes out of her mouth, and every time I think I see progress, it turns out it was all just a fantasy and I still have a child who cannot tell the truth and doesn't give a flip what her parents think about it. :confused: P.S. And to add another wrinkle, much of her "lying" is simply misunderstanding or not getting the whole story before repeating it as "truth" to everyone. For example, we saw an announcement for a theatre performance for the 2012-2013 season (so it won't start til Fall) and she said "It's July 31st!" I assured her that can't be because it's at a college and won't be until at least Fall. She stuck to her story, so I waited for the electronic sign to come back and sure enough, the EARLY BIRD TICKETS are on sale UNTIL July 31st. It didn't even give the date of the performance. So see how I have to take everything she says with a grain of salt? This wasn't intentional--she didn't read the entire thing. But she does this all day long with everything! For school she read about polar bears and insisted they cover their black noses to sneak up on prey. This is now FACT to her, so I reviewed the story and pointed out that it is a MYTH that many believe, but that it was disproven by a team of researchers. (And she has repeated this myth to other kids and adults many times, and each time I remind her that it's a "myth" that researchers studied and disproved. "Oh, yeah" she'll say, with a dejected look and face fallen, so I always follow with "But that would be really cool if they did that, wouldn't it?" and she's cheery again.) My guess is that it just the cognitive delays, but I how can my child ever LEARN if she doesn't read and understand the entire thing? Or maybe she reads it and just ignores it because she likes her version better?! :eek: All day long...with everything. I just cannot trust that her words are accurate (cognitive-based) or truthful (morality-based). And I just don't know if I can or should try to do anything to help her.