School pictures question.

Here it is one pose so I would give her one or two pictures any complaints and I would simply make a life book to send at the end. my current fm is getting pushy as well.

With my first I ordered a small-medium package, took what I wanted out of it and gave the rest to mom. She wasn't pushy at all about it. She never asked for everyday pictures because she always took a lot with her phone at visits. She was more excited about Kiddo's lifebook than he ever was about it. I set up a shutterfly account for everyday picture of my current placement. Mom never signed up for it because she said that her computer was broken. I finally printed a bunch of pictures off of it and gave them to her a few weeks ago. I was poking around FB and found her account. It's locked but I can see the profile pictures. Some of the pictures on there were taken at visits. If you can get on FB and post profile pics then you can get on and look at shutterfly pictures. I'll keep posting them to the account but I doubt I'll be printing any more. I am planning on doing fancy Xmas pictures this year and I'll get them some of those.

My last placement i sent two albums home with her. The family was super appreciative as it was all of her nb pictures. I also sent her coming home outfit some homemade stuff etc. all of it was for her memories. I hope she gets them. I have no baby pictures or even pics under three yo for my daughter I know how that feels. :(

I've done it different ways depending on the situation, and where the case was. With two of my placements with the more difficult parents, I gave them their own form so they could order their own. They both did. Then with other placements who really aren't participating much, I offered the forms (both declined) and sent a 5x7 and a couple extra smaller ones on their next visit.. and then was not surprised when it showed up on FB two days later. lol

I do buy school pictures for my foster kids. I usually give a 5x7 and few wallets to the biofamily. I also put their school photo in a frame and put it on our wall. I also share pictures with those who are special to them. I keep the rest of their package in their 'special stuff' box. It goes with them when the RU or move on. When the RU or move on, I also send them with a photo album or 2 of pictures of their time with us. I think that it is important for them to have their history.

I totally agree how important they are! Rite of passage is how I see them too and I have my school pics as well. She was angry that I would even keep one and questioned what size was I taking. Then got mad again when I did bring them that I kept the child safe ones. She didn't even want me having one picture. Even the VS said the mom expected me to buy the whole package and give them all to her. I'm annoyed that she assumed I would buy her pics, my thought is now that if you want 1 that's fine, you want to give em out that's cool, here's the order form. I did give them the package envelope so they could order more. I'm being cranky I know but just UGH!

I would feel used too.. Pushed bossed etc. she is what I would call an entitlement personality. Don't let her get to you.. Kudos for getting the pictures. Did she even say thank you? Sunnys mom never does.

Youre right exactly, entitled! Nope she did not say thanks, just was peeved that I kept both child safe/find cards.

I just ordered school pics and I'm getting the 5x7 and all wallets but one.

wow!! My 2 little ones couldn't have school pics until they were adopted. L always had them. After adoption, I would order what I could afford and send bios some pics. Last year, I had them framed and sent them. Both thanked me. This year, I'll send one of each to the bios.

I dont do school pics for my own kids because I think they are ugly and cheesy. I do photography on the side so at the same time of the year, I do my own and they are way better:)We did have a placement last year during school pic time and I ordered him the smallest package. I had a good relationship with his mom and just let her have the whole package. I took my own professional looking beautiful shots ;-)

We got professional photos done and gave some to bios. School pictures are too @&$" expensive and you don't get to see them before they come. Bios loved it and it made GirlyGirl feel so special to have her own "photo shoot".

I made the mistake of mentioning school pics to one bio parent & she gave me a list of what she wanted...it had something like 35 8x10's & several hundred wallets. Haha I think not. She filed a complaint when I gave her the order sheet because she thought I should pay for whatever she wanted. Current kids bio mom keeps asking us to get more pics. She hasn't seen them in 7 years....I think the 200+ pics I sent are just fine.

This reiterates the problem with treating bios as "clients." They think we are just "babysitting" their kids and also think that we are paid to watch them, feed them, clothe them, etc, so why should we not be buying pics too?I got lucky on that one as bio mom NEVER asked for pics. I did school pics, also at daycare, and sent wallets to bios. The 5x7 went in their life book. I did more pics at Christmas and gave enough for both sides grandparents. This is the kind of bio mom my girls have. Ugh. So first Xmas I got one of those special collage prints and a frame at JCP. The second Christmas, I just got the print. I handed it with the rest in an envelope on Christmas Day at the bio moms in laws. Yes, I took them there. So she barely looked at the collage and literally tossed the envelope and print on the coffee table with a passing "thanks." Then what happens to them, she piles tape and bows and junk on top of it.So we are driving home and Princess goes to me "so I guess mom didn't like our pictures." And I ask her why She says that and her reply "because she didn't even take care of it, she just threw it aside and put all kinds of trash on it."Heartbreaking. So, as crazy as it is, be glad that your bio cares.Of course, keep in mind, some of the bios hide the fact that their kids are in care to extended families. So they want all of the school pictures to pass out and not let on.I am happy, my new agency reimburses for school pics and yearbooks.I like the idea of giving the bio their own order form though, I may do that next time.Oh, and class photos go in life books too.

I don't do pictures for anything. They are really expensive. For sports (soccer, baseball, etc), I take my own camera on the day of pictures so I can get group shots. For school, I order a Yearbook which has the kid's individual and class photos. I didn't think to get a Yearbook for their mom but guess I should have given her the chance to order one too. I take tons of pictures so their mom gave me a CDr and asked if I would burn her a disc for each kid to have later (for her to keep too). I plan to do that sometime for her but didn't get to it yet.