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I am in a very difficult situation. We adopted a boy 4 years ago who has undisclosed beehavioral issues. This has stressed the family to the point that he and I have been living seperate from my wife and son for 8 months. Can anyone direct me to people/agencies that work with disruptd adoptions. The boy is now 10, and except for his behaviors, he is often pleasant and helpful, he can take care of his own basic care (bathroom, getting dressed, entertain himself).
I don't have any experience with disruption, but I adopted a child from foster care and she turned out to have a lot of issues that no one realized.
There were times my daughter's behavior made me think she couldn't live at home, and I called BoysTown. They assigned someone to coach us, and although that didn't work out (a lot of phone tag), and my daughter's bad behaviors resolved themselves so we didn't really need it, I think BoysTown would have been very helpful if our need for it had continued long enough.
Maybe even just knowing that I'd called and had a parenting coach motivated my daughter to control herself better, I don't know, but we live very close to BoysTown and one of the boys from her school lives there, so it might have been a wake-up call for her.
Of course we also had lots of really good therapy.
I hope you don't have to give up on your son and that he can heal (but without destroying your family first!). Good luck!
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I have gone through adoption disruptions and re-adoptions. I have also helped others who have found themselves in similar situations.
I will send a pm to you.....
Sincerely,
Linny
Linny,
I am afraid I am not well versed in the ins and outs of this web site. If you could contact me by email, I could forward that bio I had offered earlier.
ydna
alamers@comcast.net