Update on us again!

Well the court report that went out was awful and the worker did not have ONE positive thing to say so we will be cutting back visits to once or twice a month since they are going so badly and cause so much stress. The worker was very mad because I told her I would NOT do a visit without my husband anymore. She said she feels she has lost trust and that doesn't sit well with her. Well too bad lady. You are all nice and sweet to my face and then screw me. I do NOT trust you. We met with our lawyer and she said basically sign the no contest. She said she understands that we want to give testimony and tell our story but that she thinks it will be a total disaster. So we said okay. She did do something she has never done. She asked if we could include a statement with our no contest plea. A written statement. Keep it short one page. Well everyone is beating the drum about that darn alarm on her door so we did do the letter. We explained that door alarms are commonly used with RAD kids. We explained that only the JUNK food was locked up do to gorging. quoted some Nancy Thomas stuff on alarms. Explained that to some people our measures of discipline may have seemed extreme but that we were dealing with extreme behaviors and that we were also dealing with RAD. So I do feel better we at least got to defend ourselves a bit. Not at all as much as we wanted but a bit which is better than nothing. Told them that since they were saying we cut her off socially that while she was grounded she could still participate in FCA, FCCLA, FBLA, Youth Group, Awana, Forensics etc. Also explained that the school used extraordinary discipline measures with her and at the time of her placement she was not allowed on school property unless under the direct supervision of a teacher or parent. This further isolated her socially because she could not attend basketball games, football games etc. But that this was the SCHOOL's deal not ours. We were trying to point out home was not the only place extra measures had to be taken. So court is in a week and I can't wait to get it over with. Our lawyer was SHOCKED the GAL had NEVER talked to us ONCE and that the worker had NEVER been to our home when the goal is reunification as well.