court today

Well we had court. Apparently there was some big pow wow before we weren't invited too. Our attorney did try to speak up for us and say the court reports appeared very one sided and she said she put it in so many words it was pretty obvious that integration wasnt really the goal and no one said anything. She also told the GAL that when the foster family is talking to our daughter about college etc they don't appear to be supporting the reintegration plan. We were surprised because 6 months is the standard to review a case and her GAL asked for 60 to 90 days So we go back to court April 10. The worker did not come check our home as requested. Did not have a face to face with my husband either. My poor husband is very upset. Says he feels like he wasn't a good enough dad to provide her with a home she could stay in. I guess I was the one who was her target so I am more jaded. We are cutting back our visits to twice a month. Our worker WAS not put on the stand like she said she would be so the negative report court is all they heard. Apparently the foster dad took her around to see all her friends etc after court. I talked to a mom and one of my friends saw her in a convenience store 2 hours after court was done. Good news is no support. Our state considers it an adoption disruption and they don't go after it in these cases. I just don't understand how she can walk away from her entire family so easily. Does she really hate me so much or is it just selfish? When it goes OPPLA I will no do visits, I think my husband has changed his mind. I wonder how this is going to effect our marriage as well.