Adult adoptee hoping that this advice will help young traumatised adoptees

I am an adult adoptee, and while I do not want to get into the politics of adoption, I have found something that has helped me a lot with my psychological issues that I wanted to pass on. I was relinquished as a baby, so suffered with the trauma of losing my mother. But also was neglected and abused within my adoptive family. I would say I had many of the 'RAD' characteristics, but nowhere near as severe as many of the stories I've seen within the adoption community. While I think a lot of 'RAD' type behaviour is normal, in that once you've lost that bond with your original mother it's impossible to trust and attach to new parents. I do not support attachment therapies that force the child to bond with the parents against their will. I think they are retraumatising and cruel. But I do realise that these children are suffering, all types of adoptees, and if the whole family is stressed and angry and unable to cope, that will continue to send a message to the adoptee that they are 'bad'. If they have already been relinquished or abused, this will compound the maladaptive behaviour. So, while looking into ways to help myself I came across these trauma exercises- Trauma Release Exercises by David Berceli, who is a trauma specialist who mainly works in war zones and with mass trauma. Here is his channel [url=http://www.youtube.com/user/davidberceli]David Berceli - YouTube[/url] They work by stimulating the psoas muscle in the pelvic area, which hold trauma and tension. This helps to release the body from 'fight or flight' mode and the maladaptive reactions to trauma ease up. Animals and young chidlren tremor after a stressful event, and this helps to calm them down. But as we get older this gets surpressed. So it's basically re-learning a natural process. I have found two accounts of TRE helping adoptees. Please view the video, and the review. This is a mother and daughter explaining how TRE helped their adopted brother, 12, who had experienced a lot of trauma [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-rIKZcIbeQM&list=UU-enkSYYJnpkBcEpc7qDqQg&index=40]Mother/Daughter : TRE helps improve relationships and strengthen family - YouTube[/url] I found this in the review section on Amazon. [url=http://www.amazon.com/The-Revolutionary-Trauma-Release-Process/dp/1897238401/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top]The Revolutionary Trauma Release Process: Transcend Your Toughest Times: David Berceli: 9781897238400: Amazon.com: Books[/url] I can give you some examples of how it's helped me. Less angry I can sleep! It would take me hours to get to sleep as I was hypervigillant, and I would never sleep through the night No panic attacks in sleep, or nightmares More open, no anxiety about being touched or receiving affection Found it easier to articulate my thoughts, instead of lashing out or shutting down More positive feeling towards my body, as the TRE helped me to realise that my body can take care of me. So I am taking care of myself Less self-harm. I have been SHing since the age of 10, and since doing TRE I have SHed only once. I don't have the rage and trauma inside me. The TRE released it in a positive way Less overstimulated. Before, I hated certain noises and hated being touched, not they don't bother me Able to concentrate! This was a huge issue for me, my brain could not focus, I was never 'grounded'. My mind wandered off constantly, but I am abe to take in information and remember it I am kinder. I am less afraid of caring for other people, and am not as suspicious of scared of people I have more energy, as the constant anxiety was wearing me down I feel I am letting go of the past and learning a new way of thinking about myself Most imortant thing, is it is not retraumatising!! TRE is in no way a cure for trauma, but it will hopefully help to relieve a lot of the difficulties kids with RAD face, and early intervention is the key. I have also found Mindfulness very helpful. [url=http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/mindfulness]Mindfulness | The Happiness Trap | Stop Struggling Start Living by Dr Russ Harris[/url] I would say that the breathing exercises could really help the children with anxiety, anger and flashbacks. I would start with the TRE first, as that will calm them down enough to be able to focus on the breathing meditation. Also great for parents to be calmer. I think a calm parent makes the child calmer. Here are some free Mindfulness meditation podcasts [url=http://marc.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=22]Free Meditation Podcasts | UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center[/url] I would be happy to answer any questions you may have.