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I have a situation with a baby that is now 13 months old and dad is going to get him back sometime this year. But dad and mom are both special needs and also the baby is somewhat special needs with 4 months behind on his gross motors. Dad is getting the reun. but mom is not. But mom will still be in the picture.
Anyone out there came across this situation? I am just curious if the court will approve something like this. I really do not want to give any other details out at this time. I had this baby, can you believe this, for 13 months. I got him when he was 2 weeks old. I know it will be up to the court. So, this is a very weird case. So let me know. Thanks everyone.......
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I guess alot would depend on what you mean by the dad is special needs. If he is in a wheelchair but has no mental health issues or cognitive delays I would assume that he would need to show he is capable of caring for the child. If there are mental health concerns then he would likely have to pass a psych eval. If there are cognitive delays there are different tests and assessments that would need to be done.
The case we have now both parents have mental health diagnoses and cognitive issues. They love and want their baby home and have done nothing to hurt the baby, but the reality is that they are not likely to be able to take care of her. There are several issues that have to be dealt with in the house for it to be safe for them, let alone an infant.
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He had all that and passed his pysch eval. so that's why he is reun. with him and not mom. Mom did not pass the pysch. But, there was a previous child they lost in the system 3 years ago. It was an abuse case, but know one knows hurt this other child. That's why they took this child away. But now both mom and dad are getting the help and counsling. Both of the parents might have cogn. problems and not understanding certain things. I will probably lose him, but I still care about him and I do not want him to get hurt. SW said this is just out of my hands and we have to wait for the court to decide. Thanks for answering me back.
I think this varies so much from state to state---and even the area within each state. I know around here, the courts tend to side too much with biological parents who truly have emotional and cognitive issues to the point the baby really isn't being taken good care of, IMO. I know it's possible for people with these issues TO care---well---for their babies; but, as in one case we're aware of----the bmom is NOT one to do well under a lot of stress. Many agree it may well be just a matter of time until something dire occurs. :(
As the foster parent, aren't you able to know whether supportive services are being offered to the biological father once he has custody of the baby???? I know some areas really frown on this; but it seems logical you should be assured (to some degree) this baby will be taken care of properly.
Is it possible for you to know bdad well enough he could know you'd be available for baby should he find himself in a temporarily bad situation and need help with baby for a short time?
I don't often advocate for that kind of set up, but I also know of situations where the bmom brought the baby TO the former foster family for safe-keeping (for a short time) while bmom got her act together.
I can certainly identify with your worries for baby to stay safe if baby is reunited with biological parents.
Sincerely,
Linny