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Okay, so I've posted here before about how I began seeking my birth mother and found, instead, her obituary.
I then decided to reach out to her sister, my biological aunt. I sent a certified letter a few weeks ago and sat back to wait...
After a wait that seemed to last forever (but was really only 10 days!), I received an email from my biological aunt. She hadn't known for sure about her sister's pregnancy and my subsequent adoption, but she'd had a feeling... and she welcomed me to the family.
Within a few days, she'd told my birth mother's daughters (biologically, my half-sisters) + her own mother (biologically, my grandmother) that I'd contacted her. They have ALL welcomed me with open hearts.
I went into this braced for doubt, disbelief, and rejection, so to find myself suddenly surrounded by kind, generous people who have been treating me as long-lost family is... unreal. I've literally asked my husband to pinch me, repeatedly, because I couldn't quite believe it. But it seems to be real, and I am so incredibly happy! I've been emailing/chatting/texting with my new-found sisters and aunt, and getting to know them over the past few weeks has been a true joy.
My thanks to those here who have offered tidbits of advice or simply support along the way.
I know that building a lasting relationship with this newly-discovered birth family of mine will take time, but I'm willing to put in the effort, and so far, it appears they are too. I know I'm incredibly lucky... and I know that things can change, even when a reunion gets off to a terrific start. But for now, I can truly say that I've found more than I ever dared dream. It's amazing.
I wish everyone still searching good luck - may you all find what you seek.
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Okay, so I've posted here before about how I began seeking my birth mother and found, instead, her obituary.
I then decided to reach out to her sister, my biological aunt. I sent a certified letter a few weeks ago and sat back to wait...
After a wait that seemed to last forever (but was really only 10 days!), I received an email from my biological aunt. She hadn't known for sure about her sister's pregnancy and my subsequent adoption, but she'd had a feeling... and she welcomed me to the family.
Within a few days, she'd told my birth mother's daughters (biologically, my half-sisters) + her own mother (biologically, my grandmother) that I'd contacted her. They have ALL welcomed me with open hearts.
I went into this braced for doubt, disbelief, and rejection, so to find myself suddenly surrounded by kind, generous people who have been treating me as long-lost family is... unreal. I've literally asked my husband to pinch me, repeatedly, because I couldn't quite believe it. But it seems to be real, and I am so incredibly happy! I've been emailing/chatting/texting with my new-found sisters and aunt, and getting to know them over the past few weeks has been a true joy.
My thanks to those here who have offered tidbits of advice or simply support along the way.
I know that building a lasting relationship with this newly-discovered birth family of mine will take time, but I'm willing to put in the effort, and so far, it appears they are too. I know I'm incredibly lucky... and I know that things can change, even when a reunion gets off to a terrific start. But for now, I can truly say that I've found more than I ever dared dream. It's amazing.
I wish everyone still searching good luck - may you all find what you seek.
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Thanks to you too, Peach125. I know not all reunions work out so well, and I consider myself very lucky.I remain in reunion with my maternal birth family, and it's been amazing.My (adoptive) family has been less than supportive, but I'm muddling through with that as well.All in all, it's been quite a ride. I'd share my good luck with all searching adoptees if I could...
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I'm so happy for you! I wish you and your family many wonderful years ahead of getting to know each other and feeling loved.
My son and I have been reunited for nearly four years now, and we are so happy. It hasn't always been easy, but that's only because we are both so vulnerable and that can make us sometimes let our fears read the situation. But as the years have gone by, we trust each other more and more, and our hearts remain open to each other and we keep communicating in an honest way. Life makes sense again now we are so closely back in each other's orbit.
Honestly, that is exactly how me and my son's extended family felt when he came back into our lives. We still feel like a whole heap of treasure re-entered our lives the day he contacted us. We feel blessed by him, and he says he does by us too! But it truly felt like a long lost family member had returned.
Of course, we respect that he has another family too (though they don't respect us similarly, and are making it difficult for him) and we all wish he didn't have those unfair pressures to contend with. But whenever we get together we have a great time.
I wish you endless happiness, all of you. Don't be afraid of any bumps - just get through them as you would in any other meaningful relationship.
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Again, thanks for the supportive cheer. :)My husband, son, and I took a family road trip to meet my birth family face-to-face back in September. We're obviously still in the early stages, as it's only been about 7 months since I first made contact, but we're continuing to get to know each other and I've really been enjoying it.I wish everyone else the kind of luck I've had...