Agency for Closed Adoptions

I am not aware of any agencies or attorneys that do strictly closed adoptions as most are left to the discretion of bio parents in "matching" Why not signing on with the agency that you like and only agree to those that are closed? Is this an option?

Oh yes, that is an option. I guess I worded it wrong. Sorry. Most of the agencies I have looked at or spoken to have said they will either not do a closed or spend awhile trying to talk me out of closed. I know that it is not the preferred way, but my husband and I feel strongly about it. We just want a good agency as well...one that will work with us.

Hmm... Yeah, I never came across one and like you, closed was never really an option. I do know that I have seen many baby born situations that were closed. With that said, are you able to work with a facilitator in your state. Due to her specific criteria it might be the best option if your budget allows

You will find that many agencies basically force adoptive parents to go with fully open adoptions--including visits and long-term updates/photos. This is not necessarily the best option for everyone and every adoption. You are doing well to request and say-totally up front that this is the option your family feels is best for you and your new baby/child. (Some hopeful adoptive folks agree to open-ness when they really don't feel comfortable with it.) Even so, you may have to do some real research to find an appropriate agency/attorney who'll give this option---not just to you-but to the birthfamilies as well. And yes, there ARE birthmothers who desire and request a closed adoption. In saying 'closed' I'm assuming you're asking for one where names/health histories are disclosed, but you do not want visits or long-term updates/photos? Do your homework and research agencies/attorneys who'll give 'freedom of choice'. Don't get discouraged-they *do* exist, believe me. You may have to phone many to find one, but they do exist. Sincerely, Linny

I wish I had better info to give you but I just wanted to say that I think it's a good thing that you are sticking to what you are comfortable with and what you feel is the best choice for your family. There is no benefit in anyone being forced in to any relationship they aren't comfortable with, no matter what articles or statistics they might state.Like Linny said, it might be a little tougher to find the perfect with for you, but it is out there, keep faith. Have you thought about trying to work with an attorney and doing most of your networking and searching on your own? I would think that would get you the most exposure to the birth parent population you are seeking, but it also would be a large undertaking on your part so I could see how you might not want to choose that path. Another thing occurs to me as a possible good idea for you guys is a social worker who works with the local hospitals? As someone already said, baby born situations may be more likely to be closed, or last minute hospital placements. There might be moms out there who are afraid to work with agencies because they feel they might be pressured into open adoption when they don't really want that, know what I mean? It should always be up to the mother and I think a good agency/attorney or other professional will respect that as well as your wishes.Good luck!

I am interested in getting referral for closed adoption agency, too. I would appreciate your PM. What is semi-open adoption?

I do not think i ran in to any agencies when looking that offered Closed adoptions.I know I do consider mine Closed. The agency called my agreement Simi Open.This is where for the first 6 months we send a update each month. (I think this is needed for the finalization any ways) then after that we agreed to send the Birth mom a update each year on her birthday for the first 5 years. after that we no longer need to send the updates. All communication is through the agency. So this is why i consider it closed. I have no issues sending a update letter and some pics for a bit.