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Recent issues for my husband have brought up a renewed sense of being unwanted. Bad relationship with family as well as his adoption have stirred the pot. Reveltions recently have made this even more dominant in his life. I read about people finding they have younger biological siblings or half siblings. But he found he has older full siblings and parents are STILL together. We have found pictures through social media and he bares remarkable resemblance to his siblings. His can I help him come to terms with this? For reference, initial call to bm ended with being hung up on.
When the biological parents either were married at the time of the relinquishment or married after the child was given up for adoption, a positive reunion outcome becomes less likely.... I'm sure the guilt associated with having the entire family together except for that one child out there in the world can be almost too much to bear.
I've even heard of a situation in which the parents were married but told everyone that the child had died during the birth. It wasn't true. The child had been given up for adoption.
Tell him to read everything he can about adoption reunions and the feelings that are typical on both sides.
Have him join groups here and elsewhere where he can talk about his feelings.
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