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My message to our worker:
I got texts from a friend saying how *** was the talk of OUR school because of the post and pics about spankies. I wasnt going to say anything, figured I have said stuff before and didn't do any good. UNTIL the same friend texts me and says hey she took that pic down FYI. Ya know ***l I am pretty sure she did not take that pic of her *** down voluntarily. So this my point, she posts a pic of her butt but fully clothed and it gets IMMEDIATE action. She posts a slanderous post about her family that has essentially been her undoing and nothing gets done.
IF that post had been taken down when I alerted you to it her sister would not have been told and she wouldn't have posted a defense and **** deleted it. People would not not have then started posting stuff bashing our family and C**** essentially liking every post they made. It wouldn't have gotten to SPIRAL out of control so can you PLEASE explain to me the difference in those posts? Because the one about our family has certainly made a HUGE difference in OUR family's lives yet again and no one seems to give a CRAP. I do NOT get the priorities going on here.
Here is hers back to be which I think is totally RUDE
There was indeed an inappropriate picture posted on facebook by ***. I was notified by *** about it and she immediately addressed it. I believe*** is grounded. I am not for sure for how long, etc. I did not take the post down, have not talked to ***, and dont know who took it down or if***forced *** to take it down. IҒm sorry I dont have those details. *** addressed the concern so I did not intervene at all, as I felt the situation was appropriately handled.
Regarding your concerns that there was ғIMMEDIATE action on this recent facebook post and not the post that was ԓslanderous to the family, all I can say is what I believe I have already expressed to you. The earlier post had comments about *** cutting. ** safety is my upmost concern and I immediately responded to the post due to that. I encouraged her to take the post down but ultimately did not feel it was my place to remove it myself. Furthermore, I believe ***n handled the situation with *** appropriately by removing *** posts if they were offensive to her rather than lashing out at her. Regarding the decision you guys made to no longer be a part of l*** life, that is your choice and if you allow a childish facebook post to push your decision in a certain direction then that is on your shoulders and no one elseԒs. Neither *** nor myself make such choices for you.
***is a child. She will make bad choices and have consequences for them. This is the same procedure no matter where she is living. I feel that *** has done a wonderful job addressing concerns and guiding *** to make healthier decisions. Please understand that we dont feel like these facebook posts are appropriate and continue to actively work with *** to make healthier choices.
My response:
I understand that***l and we were concerned about the cutting remark as well which is why *** contacted you. Oh and trust me *** lashed out at *** as well and continued to like every comment that was made that was negative towards her family.
I find it interesting that *** goes from being an young adult to a child depending on the situation. Some things are age appropriate and some are not.
You are correct there are consequences for actions. We made it very clear to *** and *** when we re entered family therapy that if there was any more lies, and manipulation and slander towards our family we would be stopping with therapy. We all agreed to put the past in the past and not bring it up. There were very clear expectations on both sides. I am sorry you think that is the ONLY reason we stopped therapy bit it is not. There is a long line of history, behaviors etc that have happened and even if you do not know or understand the full extent of it that is not my fault. I would hope you would've gotten to know us better than that but it is not our fault you have not. There does come a time when enough is enough and I am sorry if you do not understand that.
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i am not inside of your situation, so i cannot judge what's going on. i can hear your hurt and anger, and i know that you are living such an emotionally charged situation that i cannot even begin to fathom the depth of your pain.
or hers.
people who behave so vilely toward others often do so in an attempt to make themselves feel better. and they do it with complete abandon and supreme justification.
i wish there was some wisdom that i could offer you that would make this right. i'm just not that smart. but i do know that you do not have to attend every fight to which you are invited--even when the words are so inciting and evil.
take care of yourself. the world is going to judge anyway. let them. truth has a way of getting out, even though sometimes it takes a very long time.
I agree with Jen...it's about you now. Somewhere you have to find the ability to let this go. This sw and situation is not going to change and nothing you do is going to make a difference. You need to focus on you and start picking up your life the best you can, which means not engaging with the very people who do nothing but hurt you.
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