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Hello, I'm a single women and I always wanted to foster a child. I want to help a child. I'm nervous because I don't know what to expect. I read some threads and it seems that most people who are single chose domestic adoption but I believe that cost a ton of money. I wonder if there are any single women on here who has a success story and how long did it take. I live in Kenucky and I'm wonder what agency I could go through. You can PM me with that info. Are there any tips or pointers.
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Hi and welcome !! I too live in Kentucky and just wanted to lend support for your decision! We have been foster parents since 9/12 and have had 2 placements so far. Just wanted you to know there were multiple single women in the class we were in and one of the instructors was single as well so please don't be discouraged in applying and completing the training. Unfortunately the need for foster homes continues to grow! Good luck and if you have any questions I'd be happy to help if I can ; )
Hi ! I too live in Kentucky and just wanted to lend support. We are foster parents and have been since 9/12 with 2 placements so far. In our training class there multiple single women and one of the instructors was single as well so please don't let that discourage you from applying and completing the training!! Unfortunately the need continues to grow for foster homes. If you have any questions please let me know I'd be happy to help!! Once again good luck!!
I am a single woman who has adopted, I'm on Texas though so I don't know about agencies in your area. The agency I am with welcomes single people, same sex couples, young couples just starting out, older couples who just are not ready to be done being parents...
I was placed with my daughter one month after being licensed and it went straight to adoption, not normal I know. Now I am ready for my next placement.
Being single shouldn't be a hindrance. I have always wanted to adopt, so married or not I knew this is what I wanted to do. My father was a foster child, I have a good friend from high school who she and her sister were foster children, so doing what I am doing is just natural to me. If you know you want to do this, it will happen.
Good luck. Keep us posted as to how it is going.
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That's reassuring. I been trying to call places but I guess cause of the holidays, I cant get in contact with anyone. I will jeep trying though. Its something I always wanted to do also. So if your fostering and you choose to adopt, don't you have to pay a lot of money. I will keep yall posted.
LoveBeingMama
I am a single woman who has adopted, I'm on Texas though so I don't know about agencies in your area. The agency I am with welcomes single people, same sex couples, young couples just starting out, older couples who just are not ready to be done being parents...
I was placed with my daughter one month after being licensed and it went straight to adoption, not normal I know. Now I am ready for my next placement.
Being single shouldn't be a hindrance. I have always wanted to adopt, so married or not I knew this is what I wanted to do. My father was a foster child, I have a good friend from high school who she and her sister were foster children, so doing what I am doing is just natural to me. If you know you want to do this, it will happen.
Good luck. Keep us posted as to how it is going.
OMG. That's a lot of kids. My limit will be 2. Your a trooper. Lol. Congrats on all your placements. :)
Sheena85
I'm a single mom of 8... It's doable! Here single parents are not looked down upon...I do have a gf but she's deployed and if I keep adding kids she may chose not to come back! :D
I began fostering as a single mother. The only thing that is more difficult about it than just being a normal single parent is that there are a lot of appoinments youare required to take them to. For example, many children are required to attend weekly therapy, there are always extra doctors visits at first, and then you have to plan on takling them to visits with their parents (but they will work those around your schedule). It is completely doable and there were several times I had 4 children in my care (always 2 sibling sets). It can be crazy but rewarding. Just make sure you have a support system like family who can help out or good friends who can take them to an occasional appoinment for you. Also, depending on the age you adopt and whether they are a sibling group, you will likely be able to negotiate an adoption subsidy which will also help out financially.
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shazwott
Just make sure you have a support system like family who can help out or good friends who can take them to an occasional appoinment for you.
may1787
I haven't started fostering yet, and haven't even been to my local orientation yet (won't be able until late February), but this part concerns me.
I'm single and not in a relationship and while I would only be a resource family for emergency or respite care (I don't have the lifestyle to take on long term foster), I would feel guilty asking my parents, adult siblings, friends, and church family to help me with this here and there as fostering would be a choice I would make for myself and I would feel I am pushing my choice on them. :o I'm sure some of you may feel this way, too. Can anyone tell me their experience with this?
may1787
I would feel guilty asking my parents, adult siblings, friends, and church family to help me with this here and there as fostering would be a choice I would make for myself and I would feel I am pushing my choice on them. :o I'm sure some of you may feel this way, too. Can anyone tell me their experience with this?
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ruth74
Having bio kids is also a choice people make, getting divorced is a choice people make, even having a cat who may need someone to stop in to feed it while you are on vacation. With the exception of illness/ accidents/ etc, many things in our lives are choices we make. As a single mom, I've learned not to feel guilty asking for help (or at least not to let that guilt get in the way of doing so). Asking for help is not pushing your choice on anyone, as they are absolutely free to say no to that request. I've learned that people who love me really want to help, and not letting them do that is shutting them out of my life. It's hard, especially when you need to make the change to relying on others more than you are used to, but I've never had anyone feel upset about being asked - if they couldn't do something, they just didn't.
Sheena85
A lot of sick time too! This week alone I've taken two days sick leave and my girlfriend watched her for a day but once again in my home and that is an inconvience for people.