Excuse me..i'm new :(

I'm sorry, I don't know the laws where you are, but I am sure you will get some great responses. However, it does seem like they try in most areas to keep siblings together, so if your heart has room for one more, this may be your opportunity. Good luck! :-)

Absolutely- I keep siblings all the time :) Thank you for your kind words (can you help me connect on the bottom a signature?) Hoping and praying for good things :)

Absolutely- I keep siblings all the time :) Thank you for your kind words (can you help me connect on the bottom a signature?)Hoping and praying for good things :)

I'm in NY. My 2 little ones came as a pre-adoptive disruption; bio mom had TPR'd; bio dad was appealing. Bio mom was pregnant, used again, went to rehab and kept the baby. I think this happened because she out of the system.

Oh Millie, that's what i'm afraid of :(:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: everytime we deal with court- it never makes sense :( one set of kids went home after a big DV case- and they just had a big thing at their house-DV related :( i mean if the process of tpr is in place- and the baby will be born in Rehab.....some say because she's in treatment she'll get it back (she got violated on probation and put in rehab) ....CW says they baby will be removed. I dont know what to believe :(

Caseworker intends to take the baby. I would say that is a given. Now, it is POSSIBLE that mom will get her act together and be able to parent which *would* stink after you and the siblings get attached. However, sadly, the chances of biomom staying clean and getting the baby back is fairly slim. Addiction is *really* hard to overcome anyway, but the greatest predictor of future behavior is past behavior. She has shown for two years that she is either unwilling or unable to pull herself together for herself and her children. Of course, I *always* have hope for these people! But I think it is a very real possibility you could have all three siblings forever :)I will pray for my children's bioparents forever. But I'm definitely glad my kids are here where they belong for their childhoods :)

Caseworker intends to take the baby. I would say that is a given. Now, it is POSSIBLE that mom will get her act together and be able to parent which *would* stink after you and the siblings get attached. However, sadly, the chances of biomom staying clean and getting the baby back is fairly slim. Addiction is *really* hard to overcome anyway, but the greatest predictor of future behavior is past behavior. She has shown for two years that she is either unwilling or unable to pull herself together for herself and her children. Of course, I *always* have hope for these people! But I think it is a very real possibility you could have all three siblings forever :) I will pray for my children's bioparents forever. But I'm definitely glad my kids are here where they belong for their childhoods :)

Thank you Mama Pam. I'm just so nervous- i never know the legal info on it. I do know that TPR Court is scheduled next week-that will give us a bigger picture--correct?

I'm in NY and what we were told is once a mother's rights have been terminated or she already has children in the system any child born goes straight into the system as well. They would typically call you first since you have the siblings. But if the child is up for adoption right away who knows. I think it might depend on what happens while mom is in rehab. If is a rehab repeat the judge may look at her history and terminate all rights no matter what.

I'm in NY as well. My history of knowing this is if mom has an active case with ACS, meaning she still has kids in foster care, they will remove the infant immediately. They will seek kinship first then current foster parents to keep the sibling groups together. If mom is in a treatment program and her other kids have TPR'd, her case is closed, she will have a chance to keep the baby... as long as she is clean. ACS will most likely continue to monitor her until they feel she has proven herself.

imafostermom, Any update?

:arrow: well here's the update. She's been in rehab 2 months after 2 years of them telling her to go & her testing dirty-while pregnant. (then took her 3 weeks after that to actually go inpatient). We went to TPR Court and she didn't show. So it was rescheduled. We went back to court- and she hired a lawyer- the judge along with Foster Care recommended her to Surrender. She said no. The judge blatantly stated that the kids have been in care most of their lives (1 has literally been in care since he was 8 months) & that she should of thought about doing this a while ago. It's great she's trying-but how can she tend to these kids when she cant take care of herself. They asked for visits back and he said NO. Baby was born- this week. CW was NEVER notified- was seen on FB. Rehab was supposed to notify CW. Petition filed, court is next week :( On the positive side- birthmom told someone I know (she also works through the county just like i do) that she has 2 other kids besides the baby- and they are with a very nice family that takes good care of them. Judge said the program that he wants for her-is like 2 years..and it's not fair to the kids (the ones i have) ...just wondering what he'll say to a baby :( :paci:

I can tell you this. We faced the exact circumstance you gave with our DD #1. Her mom was pregnant with her 5th sibling, in Missouri if you are forced to surrender they can take any future children without the same amount of red tape that's required if no other children have been removed from the parent. So DD's mom decided it was in her best interest to sign away DD & the 4 brothers to keep the one she was carrying. Ended up when they found out she had a baby he was brought in to care, she wasn't allowed to keep him either. He was adopted by other family members. Honestly what I've learned with these things is it just depends on the case. Each judge, caseworker, division of family services all work differently depending on the case. Honestly it could work or not. I'd say if your wanting to adopt the child and the child comes in to care take the chance. It doesn't matter if it's a child that leaves you or if it's your daughters first field trip. We all have things that trigger our infertility grief, I'd rather have mine triggered by a child leaving then never having the child or by the what ifs.