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After looking for my birth mother for over 25 years, I finally found her yesterday. :banana: My emotions have been all over the place because I am thrilled, nervous, anxious, cautious, etc. I will be contacting her through an intermediary. She wants me to write a letter stating what I want to find out. I never thought this day would come and although I have thought about this before, I don't know what to ask her because this might the first and only contact with her. I don't know if she wants me to find her, will she be receptive, etc. The only thing I know for sure I want to find out is my medical history. I have thought about other things like why did she give me up for adoption? Can anyone give me any suggestions of what to ask her? I am nervous and excited. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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PJTPT
I can imagine how excited you are. Writing a letter is emotional and scary.
Do you want the chance to get to know your mother by birth? If yes, consider starting your list with that. That you would appreciate the chance to exchange letters and get to slowly know each other and see where it leads.
If that isn't possible, to know any or all of the following (if you agree with them)
Were you named? What was your name?
What our story was, what you felt, why you chose adoption.
What your nationality is?
A picture if possible...
What your mother is good at, her hobbies, her favorite things.
What her life is like today
Your father by birth?
All of the above are just suggestions to get you thinking.
I'd end with the family health history and ask that she at least identify degree of relatedness.
Kind regards,
Dickons
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