Before adopting a child..

I think you’d better start on getting more independent from your relatives. Your family is your family. You have to take your own decisions and no one shall interfere. This is ok that your in-laws help you financially but this doesn’t mean that because of it you have to do everything they say. It’s not natural. Try to be more independent. Don’t be afraid. If your relatives are quite sensible, they’ll appreciate any of your decisions. In any case, they’ll get used to it.