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Originally Posted By VivienneMy daughter is 4 and the adoptive parents are talking to her about me. We have an open adoption. One day I am going to explain to her why I had to give her up. I know my reasons, but there is one thing I am afraid of. What if she becomes hurt knowing she was an accident. Could she forgive me? Vivienne
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Originally Posted By BrookVivienne,I suggest that you create a little love story about you and your search for the best possible future for the little baby growing in your tummy. Perhaps it can include asking God/Jesus to help you...having a dream in your heart about finding a really loving home for her...a bit about how sad your felt about the precious little baby not staying with you...and then God's search.I had such a story for 6 month old that I adopted from Korea. When I got to the search it went like this...Mom: (Referring to God.) Did her find her in Mississippi?Daughter, with enthusiasm and emphasis: No-oo-oo!Mom: Did he find her a-aa-aa-ll the way over in Tokyo?Daughter: No-oo-oo! Mom: Did he find her in Waycross, Georgia?Daughter: (Each time said with such emphasis) No-oo-oo!And on and on and on it goes, until finally...Mom: And did he find her in Seoul, Korea?Daughter, gleefully: YES!!!That's when we'd giggle and I'd tickle her in glee.And your story can ask of the family you asked God to find for you...Vivienne: Did God find them in San Diego?Daughter: No-oo-oo!Vivienne: Did he find them all the way over in Bombay?And so it goes, until you finally get to the town she's in now. And in fact, I think I'd add that after God and Jesus found her new home, they told me I could be happy because now she has a second Mommy and a Daddy, and she's grow up knowing that everybody loved her sooooo much!I honestly think it'd be so easy to explain things in such a manner, but I can only hope that it's a story she grows up comfortably with because she's heard it all her life and, in fact, it's her favorite story.At bedtime my daughter would often ask, "Mommy, tell me the story about when you and Daddy adopted me."I'd sometimes reply, 'Why don't you tell it to me this time.'Then the tables were turned...Daughter: Did he find me in Alabama?Mom: No-oo-oo!!Daughter: Did he find me in California?And on it goes and goes and goes.It truly can be A FUN THING!Good luck to you.BrookQuikSmyle@aol.com
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