Under what circumstances would you completely close your adoption?

April 26, 2017

I understand that in some situations, visitation with birth parents or sharing addresses or phone numbers might not be safe. But I don't see that it's entirely necessary to completely close the adoption. I have seen people set up a separate email account to send updates to, and that seems to have worked fairly well. But I still hear of some adoptive couples feeling that any contact whatsoever would be unsafe.Has anyone ever experienced this? What would it take for you to completely close the adoption?

Crystal Perkins

April 27, 2017

It's definitley depends on each family's situation. That would be a hard decision to make.

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rskousen

April 27, 2017

I can't imagine ever intentionally completely closing an adoption. Even in situations where contact isn't safe, you can always send pictures and updates about the children through an agency or designated email account, simply being cautious about not including any details that would hint at your location.

Dianne Dysart

June 18, 2017

Continued illegal activity...drug use or alcohol addiction without attending meetings while trying to live sober, undermining adoptive parents authority, birth parents who only contact to ask for help financially, birth parents who drop the ball in the openness agreement.