Rude family members

Most of my family is amazing about doing everything they can to show that they love my son and embrace the beauty that he came into our family through adoption. To those who aren't supportive or say things that are hurtful, I just try to tell them positive facts. For example: I have a relative that was appalled that we wanted an open adoption. She told us our son would be better off not knowing he was adopted or that he was orphaned and that is why we adopted him. She gave us all sorts of worst case scenario stories, like that his birth family could come one day and kidnap him when we invite them his birthday party. I basically just told her that I would never lie to him about where he came from and how he came to our family. That would dishonor his first parents and our son. I told her research has shown that open adoptions prove to be very beneficial for all parties involved in the adoption. I am hoping that over time, those who don't support our adoption will learn and have their hearts softened. I have to try and remember that many people were raised with a certain mindset and it is hard to change their views. It can take a lot of time, but I think they are more likely to change their mindset if we are open, honest and kind about open adoption.