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Mothers day is tough for so many women. You have women waiting to adopt who may also be struggling with infertility. Adoptive moms who may be struggling with guilt or unsupportive family members. And birth moms who struggle to see where they fit. How do you handle mothers day at your house?
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My friend Lindsey is a mom of five (through adoption) and describes herself as "an infertility survivor." She's experienced painful adoption reversals, including one that happened after she and her husband had parented the baby for several days. Last year on her blog she shared her secret for having a good Mother's Day every year, and it came down to a simple piece of advice she received from her own mom:"Stop thinking about yourself." So now every year she spends Mother's Day focusing on celebrating the women in her life. She delivers flowers to friends and family who have mothered her and helped her mother her family. She hosts a birth mother's day brunch at her house for the many birth mothers she knows and loves. She celebrates her children, who made her a mother. And every year, she has a good Mother's Day. Her post totally changed my perspective on Mother's Day. Yes, you can spend the day feeling sorry for yourself because of whatever less-ideal mothering circumstances have befallen you (and they have befallen all of us) - or you can find things and people to be grateful for and celebrate. (You can read her post here . . .)
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