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My husband and I live in Ontario, Oregon which is a grand 6 hours from Portland where state DHS is located. 2 years ago I looked into starting the adoption process. I ended up very heartbroken and discouraged because I was told we were too far away. I was told that it would be 2 years before we could get a home study and even after that it could be years before we adopted a child in our ideal age range (0-3) even considering we are very open to adopting a child with special needs. Everyone I spoke to told me to do private adoption however the up front costs of private adoption are just too much and I am confused at where to go next. After beginning that process and feeling very down about the answers I was getting, I suffered two major loses. I worked developmental therapy privately with a little girl both in her home and mine for 5 years who suddenly passed away April 2016. Then in February 2017 after becoming pregnant for the first time and 5 years of hoping every single month that I could have a baby, I miscarried. My heart feels broken and it breaks even more when I know there are children out there who need homes and I am here ready for them, unable because of all the obstacles. My husband and I have been together 10 years, married since 11-11-11 and we are beyond ready to build a family. We worked hard through my own health scares, 50+ hours a week to pay off medical bills, putting my husband through school to get his associates degree, and buying our house with room for a family. Now I just want for nothing more than to fill these empty rooms. I have contacted Orgeon DHS again to for sure start this process regardless of the length but have not heard back from the representative for our area yet. If you have been through this adoption process with Oregon or have any advice it would mean the world to me. I feel like I am constantly not knowing who to turn to next.
Last update on June 9, 12:00 pm by Jordan Gross.
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The ' Squeaky Wheel Gets The Grease ' and the more you Advocate or speak out the better the results for a match!!!
Have you tried looking around for private foster care agencies to help?This is one that I found though, I don't think they serve your area:http://boysandgirlsaid.org/adoption/foster-care-adoption/Unfortunately Ontario is quite rural from most of Oregon. Have you considered relocating to make your adoption more plausible?
Have you tried looking around for private foster care agencies to help?This is one that I found though, I don't think they serve your area:http://boysandgirlsaid.org/adoption/foster-care-adoption/Unfortunately Ontario is quite rural from most of Oregon. Have you considered relocating to make your adoption more plausible?
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There are adoptable kids on websites, like adoption photolisting and Tuesday's child. Not sure about Oregon but in NY, there are other agencies like the Salvation Army that does foster care/adoption.
Last update on November 17, 10:17 am by Sachin Gupta.
My husband and I live in Ontario, Oregon which is a grand 6 hours from Portland where state DHS is located. 2 years ago I looked into starting the adoption process. I ended up very heartbroken and discouraged because I was told we were too far away. I was told that it would be 2 years before we could get a home study and even after that it could be years before we adopted a child in our ideal age range (0-3) even considering we are very open to adopting a child with special needs. Everyone I spoke to told me to do private adoption however the up front costs of private adoption are just too much and I am confused at where to go next. After beginning that process and feeling very down about the answers I was getting, I suffered two major loses. I worked developmental therapy privately with a little girl both in her home and mine for 5 years who suddenly passed away April 2016. Then in February 2017 after becoming pregnant for the first time and 5 years of hoping every single month that I could have a baby, I miscarried. My heart feels broken and it breaks even more when I know there are children out there who need homes and I am here ready for them, unable because of all the obstacles. My husband and I have been together 10 years, married since 11-11-11 and we are beyond ready to build a family. We worked hard through my own health scares, 50+ hours a week to pay off medical bills, putting my husband through school to get his associates degree, and buying our house with room for a family. Now I just want for nothing more than to fill these empty rooms. I have contacted Orgeon DHS again to for sure start this process regardless of the length but have not heard back from the representative for our area yet. If you have been through this adoption process with Oregon or have any advice it would mean the world to me. I feel like I am constantly not knowing who to turn to next.