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Am I the only adoptee who gets irritated and almost offended when people talk about adoptee trauma and loss??? Don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about victims of abuse. I mean when people say just the act of being adopted has traumatized our DNA and we have to deal with extreme loss. Personally I am not a victim. I look at my adoption as a win. I gained a second family. It sucks that I didn't get to grow up with all my siblings, but it's not the end of the world. Am I the only one who feels this way?
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I'm not an adoptee I'm a birth parent, but I totally get where you're coming from. Just like everything else, people respond to their circumstances in different ways. Some people really struggle with being adopted, especially if their adoptive family has a hard time helping them understand their story. But that doesn't mean it's automatically traumatic for everyone. The way I see it, this 'primal wound' idea puts out the idea that all adoptees are damaged and that's just not true.
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Yes!! I don't think I could have said it better. My adoptive parents have been awful for the last several years, but when I was a kid, they were great. I don't remember a time when I didn't know I was adopted. I think that probably makes a difference also.
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