Similarities

There are so many similarities between adoptive and birth parents that we don't often think about. For example, those who struggle with infertility have lost the opportunity to have a biological child. Birth parents have lost their biological child. Those two types of grief are actually very similar. Both adoptive and birth parents love the adoptee. I think if we focused more on what is the same instead of what is different, there would be a lot less tension in open adoption relationships and a lot more understanding and love on both sides. What other similarities can you think of between adoptive and birth parents?