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At what point do you remember understanding what being adopted meant? If you had a closed adoption, did you have a desire to meet your birth parents? When did that start?
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I am very different (physically) from my adopted family. Even though I had an open adoption and don't recall it being this big "Ah ha!" moment -- I do remember being frustrated about how different I looked and how I stood out from my adoptive family -- so much so that it was apparent to just about everyone that I was not blood related. I think what frustrated me was that it was never 'my' story -- everyone knew -- an important and personal part of who I was was on display any time I was around my family and I remember it making me very uncomfortable having my family come to my 1st grade open house. So that was when I first recall it 'being something' in my life. And, to be honest, it wasn't even *my* issue -- like fertility issues, people felt free to point out my difference and make light of it -- like nothing was private.
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i thought about it early make 4 or 5 and its constantly been with me . my adoptive parents didn't hide it from me and were wonderful , but it left me with a f used head . i still deal with major abandonment and rejection issues , i had bouts of uncontrollable rage and life of self medication, tried suicide once thought it would have been easier to be aborted more then a few times. i look back now and after hearing other adoptees say the felling and thought i had /have was refreshing it wasn't just in my head. my adoptee parents p[assed and saved all the records from my adoption including the order changing my name and identity the recipe when i was sold . only after i took a dan test did i finally find my mom and tracked down my fathers location . visiting my mom and my aunts {for the first time in a week } and today i just got the court order to my petition for my identity returned. they said no i don't have a right . This all but pushed me to just say f it all . but i won't give up they will return what they stole . .
At what point do you remember understanding what being adopted meant? If you had a closed adoption, did you have a desire to meet your birth parents? When did that start?
well not having birthfamily is a hard life and I am not allowed to have birthfamily or housing and I am adopted and I am 50 years old
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well when your adopted your not allowed to have birthfamily so I don't get why you ask adoptees like me when do I get to meet my birthfamily how about never your hurting my feelings its kinda rude do you not realize adopted people like me are not allowed to have birthfamily if I was allowed to have birthfmaily I wouldn't be adopted