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Hello!My sister highly recommended I post on here to look for some info. Quick info:*Granddaughter detained and placed with us almost 1 month ago*Birth Mom is my stepdaughter*Birth Mom and BD had a domestic violence incident and we think that they were caught together, disregarding the court ordered stay away order*Birth Mom is blaming me for her losing the baby (that in and of itself is a LONG story - I'm a young step mom/Mimi so it's always been assumed by SD and her mother that I've wanted to take this baby from her ----gag me!!!-----)*SWs have told us very little about the situation other than the "drug and alcohol levels of both parents is low" *SWs will not tell us what their plan for reunification is*SW treats us like we are the ones under investigation and constantly tells us how well visits are going *SD has extensive mental health issues that my husband and I are PRAYING get addressed in this situation*FD is under 6 months old*FD is doing extremely well in our care*Biological Parents get 3 monitored visits per week each, and they have to be separately because of the domestic violence court order Over the last month we have gotten very bonded to our granddaughter and we're already weepy at the thought of reunification.... i know that's the goal here but SD has made it clear that "once she gets her back we'll never see them again". I'm scared for FD's safety, and of losing our sweet granddaughter forever. HELP.
Last update on September 4, 5:43 pm by Erica Framer.
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This sounds like a pretty intense situation. It seems like your step daughter is having a hard time seeing that it is your intention to help, not to steal the baby. To be honest, the main goal of the foster care system is reunification with biological parents. If this is at all possible, the courts try and make that happen. It really depends on whether the biological parents follow through on their program, what that means in this case I can't say. Most likely getting some counseling and staying off drugs, depending on why exactly the child was removed from their care. Right now all you can do is try to provide the very best home possible for your granddaughter. The first few months of a child's life are vital to the way they attach to people throughout their life, so the more love and stability you can give her now the better. Please keep us updated on how things are going!
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