To Adopt or Not Adopt our Foster Placements

This is really hard to say. With such a huge decision like adoption, it is kind of hard to tell you to kind of see how it plays out. If the bio mom found an adoptive parent for her children, how likely is that to happen? Is it a kinship adoption? Because if not it seems odd that they would consider someone who is not kin, over someone they have been with and feel safe around. Another thing to consider, because it seems that all of your kids are potentially adoptable in the long run, is which ones you would be willing to adopt. Not sure how to word this, because I am not saying to pick your favorites! But just think like this; would you be willing to adopt all 5 kids? If you adopt these girls, and the other 2 or the 2 year old became adoptable, would you adopting the twins stop you from adopting the other children? And would you be fine with that? Again, not trying to tell you to pick your favorites, but I know with adopting it is a serious life choice and not something to t take lightly. There are so many families wanting to adopt, so it never does any good to adopt a child you do not have a connection with. On the other hand, it can be very difficult to decide to adopt them, and get your hopes up, only to end in them choosing the other adoption choice.I would recommend talking with the person working your case and see what your chances are. Ask when they know if this other person will be a real threat to you potentially adopting the girls, or if your chances would be higher. Another great thing you can try thinking about: When they were removed from you the first time, how did you feel? Did you feel like the normal sadness of a child leaving, or did it feel as if they took *your* children away? Would you be willing to go through that pain again without a fight? I feel like you have a small advantage because you have lost them once, and they have been returned. So I would say, talk to your husband and really consider how you felt when they left you, and again, if you are willing to go through it again, or if you want to fight to not go through it again. I would not recommend adopting them if it just 'comes down to it' and no one else is willing. Really make sure it is the right choice for you, and something you want to commit to full time. Hope something helped! Good luck!:)