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Originally Posted By Alisa Mierwe did an open adoption in 1986 with our first daughter.. the adoptive parents kept contact then in Dec of 1994 it stopped and we were given their lawyers name to contact them through.. we called this lawyer and he said he never represented them at anytime.. Now we have no way of letting them know vital health info they need to know for our baby girl.. It is really urgent we get this to them but we feel they took us for a ride after the precious gift of life we gave them and have no way to let them know a thing know. we are at a loss and it puts a huge hole in my heart.. I worry and they need to know this information ASAP but how do I when they gave me false information in the first place. can you please help me
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Originally Posted By Kathleen SilberIt is unfortunate that the family who adopted your child has stoppedcommunication with you. Did you have a verbal or written Open AdoptionAgreement specifying the type and frequency of contact that you would haveover the years? I highly recommend these types of agreements, which areusually done before the birth of the child.I would suggest contacting the intermediary who arranged the adoption(agency, lawyer, or facilitator) to help mediate your present situation. Ifthis family agreed to have ongoing contact with you over the years,mediation could be very helpful. If they agreed to an open adoption, theyhave a moral responsibility to live up to that agreement, and it is in thechild's best interest to have information about and communication withhis/her birthparents. If your agency/intermediary cannot help you, I wouldrecommend that you contact the adoptive family directly. You can be yourown advocate if necessary--both for the openness that you were promised andfor the best interest of your child. Good Luck!Regards,Kathleen Silber
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