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Originally Posted By Juan Carlos CampoverdeGOD BLESSED ME WITH BEING A DAD, BUT HE GAVE ME THE BIGGEST CHALENGE, "TRY TO MEET AND GET MY PRECIOUS SON" I LIVE IN NEW YORK, I WAS IN A 10 MONTH RELATIONSHIP, IT FELL APART, AND WE WENT EACH OTHERS WAY, I TRIED TO STAY AS FRIENDS, BUT SHE DIDN'T WANT, I GUESS OUR AGE DIFFERENCE WAS A PROBLEM SHE WAS 23 I WAS 17, TIME PASSED BY AND FINALLY I WAS TOLD A BIG SECRET FROM HER MOTHER, EVENTHOUGH AFTER MY NUMEROUS CALLS, I WAS NEVER TOLD THAT I WAS A DAD. I WAS VERY HAPPY BUT THEN THE WORST WAS SAID. ONCE SHE GAVE BIRTH, 8 MONTHS LATER AFTER OUR CHILDS EXISTENCE, SHE GAVE HIM UP FOR ADOPTION, SHE TRIED IN AN ADOPTION AGENCY, BUT THEY DIDN'T WANT NO PART OF IT SINCE THEY ASKED FOR THE FATHERS SIGNATURE, BUT SHE SAID I DON'T WANT TO TELL HIM. SO SHE DID A PRIVATE ADOPTION. SO FAR IT'S BEEN 18 MONTHS AND UNTILL TODAY I JUST HAVE A WALLET PICTURE, THATS ALL I GOT TO SEE OF MY SON, I TRIED IT ALL, BUT NOTHING IS COMPLYING, THE JUDGE ACTUALLY SAID IT'S MY FOULGHT FOR NOT ASKING, EVEN HE KNEW THE MOTHER DIDN'T WANT TO TALK TO ME, AND FOR NOT PUTTING MY NAME IN A FATHERS PUTATIVE LIST. IT'S HARD, BUT I AM NOT GIVING UP, I HAVE SACRIFIED MY CAREER, MY FINANICIAL STATUS, NOW I AM 21 YEARS OLD, THE MOM IS 27, AND MY SON IS 2 YEARS OLD.. I DON'T WANT TO MISS.. MORE OF HIS LIFE, COULD YOU HELP ME OR ASSIST ME, OR ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP.. SINCE IN TIMES LIKE THIS, JUST THE FAITH THAT GOD WILL PERMIT ME SOME DAY MEET HIM.. IS WHAT KEEPS ME GOING.. THANK YOU..SINCERELLY, JUAN CARLOS CAMPOVERDE... JOHNBLADE69@HOTMAIL.COM ...
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Originally Posted By TammyI am in contact with an individual that does the US based fundraising for an orphanage in Ho Chi Minh City. I have been told of a little baby of about 6 months of age that has downs and is in desperate need of a loving home with a family that can provide him the proper medical care. If anyone is intersted in adopting this beautiful baby boy, please post and thanks!Tammy
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Dear Juan:
I had been adopted through a lawyer in a private arrangement. When I was 26, I contacted this lawyer and he gave me - for free and without hassle - my birth mother's name. (I have since been happily reunited with her.)
I don't know whether your baby's mother went through an adoption agency. They usually do not give out information on the people who adopt through them, even to the birthmother.
Because your name is not on any documents regarding your son, I don't know what rights you have in searching for him.
You should try to get as much information as possible from him mother. If need be, perhaps you can take her to court.
I wish I knew more about the situation and the process of finding out who adopted your son.
When he is 18, by law he can look for you, so you should give your name, etc. to the New York State reunion registry (a government organization - check on-line) and to registries in other states in case your son was adopted elsewhere or moves or doesn't know where he was born if he looks for you at 18.
If you go to the research library at the Main Branch of the New York Public Library [Fifth Avenue @ 42nd Street, third floor] and the child was born in New York, look in the birth records book for the year he was born under his mother's last name.
I believe you can get his birth certificate number from this. Then you might be able to get a copy of his birth certificate (check on-line how).
Hopefully, someone else in the adoption community can advise you as to how you can use this info.
If you have the money, private detectives can help, especially if you have the birth certificate.
As you probably know, your son's adoptive parents will not want to be contacted by you, and your son is too young to understand the situation. Again, at the age of 18 he can find you through the state registries, but if wishes to find you sooner, sites like this might be the key.
I wish my dad were looking for me!
Good luck and God bless.