adoption gone bad-no one to turn to

Originally Posted By PeggyI gave two of my children up 12 years ago to a person i thought was my friend. mostly I did it because I had just gotten out of the psychiatric hospital for attempted suicide, and my long awaited divorce was going through the court systems and I could not possibly let this abusive alchoholic take care of none of our 4 children i had to do something quickly to protect them from him as i thought at the time. the only problem was he claimed our oldest 2 children as his and said the younger 2 were not and he didn't want them but the judge said thayt they were born during the marriage and he was in all sense of the law their father which he was. so I knew that he would have no problem signing the forms and I trusted my friend that she would allow me to be a part of their lives. Because I only wanted to protect my children that he never had anything to do with in the first place. he did get custody of our oldest 2 children and returned them to my mother a year later. iI kick myself everyday for signing any papers giving up my kids cause my so called friend took my kids out of the county we live in. and I have rarely seen them over the years. I have contacted social services about her abusing my children and welfare for her collecting money and medicaid on my children and I asked how can she do this and get away with it? because I found out that the adoption was never finalized and that in our state of KY the human resource must ok the adoption and they didnot and I was never told about this allthese years I have had to live with a decision I made at a time I feel I was not mentally or emotionally stable to make and to find out that the adoption never went through. I called my legal aide attorney I had at the time and he confirmed . when I told him I wanted my children back he asked me why? I said because they are my children and they are being abused and have been abused I have seen it when my daughter was younger she did not eat alot this woman did not like that she told my daughter that if she didn't finish her breakfast that she would have it for dinner and so forth through the day . she has also beaten my son with a belt and she did it in front of my sister whom she acts like is not related to me (my family and I are very close). She has even stated to peoplethat she would kill my kids if I ever tried to fight her on the adoption or take them away from her and recently she has said to a friend of mine and my aunt and my exhusbands wife that if I tried to get my kids that someone would go down. I have put in a call to a lawyer to find out how i can get my children back if i can it has been 12 years and she has stated that the adoption is going through now. I did in March of 1990 file an objection to the proposal but I never heard anything and I wonder if she left town instead of state because she knew that she had no rights on my children. i'm so lost and confused and concerned I really want my children but I don't want them getting hurt and will the courts think I abandoned them I have had some contact over the years . shes the one that kept moving.