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Originally Posted By patriciaOn 1-19-02 our son was born, on 1-21-02 we finally had the experience of bringing our child home from the hospital. The bmom is a sweet loving, young girl that is a member of our family by marriage and now thru this wonderful gift, our son.Everything seems to be going very well thus far, and I would say for the first month and a half, i felt like rhonda, in the above message felt. I cried 24/7 afraid about everything, losing our son, the bmom not being happy. She still gets to see him once to twice a month, she lives an hour away, so it always depends on work and weather and that no one is sick. We told her to call when ever she wanted to, we have given her many pictures, and because of the love we feel for her, she will always be in our lives. I wished we could have the same with the bfather, but he doesn't seem to want to be involved.When our son was born he spent the two days in the room with the bmom, i wanted to do this for everyone and myself. I wanted to be sure she was sure. I know she loves him, and she knows how grateful and how much we love him too. I watch him sleep and cry because I just can't beleive it yet, he is such a wonderful gift from god and the bmom and bgrandma.I am doing a scrapbook for him and it includes everyone his adoptive family and birth family. he has a family tree of both sides. I want him to know where he came from and why he is here now with us...most of all i want him to know he is loved!Open adoption is the best way to go, closed adoptions are to hard on the children. Good luck to everyone still waiting, going thru or raising their children. they are all worth it.
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Originally Posted By AngelaWe are in the middle of adopting. Our daughter is to be born May 24. We can hardly wait. The bmom is 15 years old. This is a very difficult time for us. The bmom is having lots of emotional changes which keeps her going back and forth on whether she is going to keep the baby or give us this wonderful gift. I just pray that wherever this child is supposed to be she will be and God will provide the courage for all of us.We are doing an open adoption also. We believe this is the best for the child and families involved. We are excited about increasing our family.I am glad your adoption is going well. God bless you and your family.
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Originally Posted By AngieWe are in the middle of adopting a baby through a family member. The bmother came to us 3-13-02 and said I know you an your husband have been trying to adopt and I am pregnant. Wow we could hardley believe she was standing at our place of business and saying I want you to adopt this baby. This is the bmoms 4th child and she is single. I know this is a rollercoaster ride for both parties involved we still have almost 4 1/2 months to go. Any words of advice By the way the ultrasound says its a boy.
Originally Posted By needsleepmommyMy son was also born on 1/19 but the year 1990. We brought him home on 1/22 after spending two days with his entire birth family. Our adoption became open after one year. Since then we see the birthfamily ( aunts, uncles, grandparents and birthmother) several times a year. It has its moments like any family but I wouldn't change anything. My son feels very secure and knows he is loved.
Originally Posted By patriciaangie, oh wow a boy, that is wonderful. while our bmom was pregnant I guess I just didn't let it be to much of a rollercoaster ride, I wanted to give her that time to make up her mind for sure, i told her I, we would not be able to handled yes-no all the time. It was her baby, her choice. At the time it seemed that the baby would never get here, now he's almost 4 months old. I feel pretty safe that she is not going to change her mind now, however we are now waiting to see if the bfather is going to want our son. I know he has the right, but the thought of losing my son just kills me. I love him but what will be wil be, its in gods hands. If I think about it to much I'll begin to cry. The only advice I could possibly give you is take one day at a time. You have to buy baby gear, everyone will be saying "what if she changes her mind." I got very tired of hearing that. You when a couple has a baby the "normal" way everyone is very surportive and happy for them, but when the couple is adopting they try to be surportive and happy but there is always that part of "what if"you just want to scream and say you know what we know the possibities here, we know until the judge makes it final, bmom or bdad could change their minds, we know already can you just celerbrate with us. I know family and friends that did this to us, were just thinking of us and were worried that we would get hurt. we had to take the chance. Oh thank God we did. he is a wonderful baby. our relationship with the bmom is good, I got there a mothers day card from our son, i hope she likes it. Again congradulations on your son. He will be worth it too, and just keep praying God will do what he feels is best for everyone.
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