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Originally Posted By JessicaI feel so alone. I had everything that I wanted growing up with my adopted parents but I always felt like I was abandon. Like I was left to fend for myself. I realize a baby can't say what they want to do but it feels like no one asked me what I wanted to do, whether or not I wanted to be given up for adoption or not. I grew up always wanting answers. Last october I found my birth mother but I still have those holes in my heart. I don't know how to fix them. Also I always feel so hurt when I break up with a guy. It feels like it's another person leaving me. I realize I'm only 21 but I don't want to be alone. I want to feel loved. I want to feel wanted. Is that too much to ask for? Anyways, I don't know if anyone feels the way I do or not but if anyone wants to talk you can email me at jessica_mckinley@hotmail.com thanks-Jes
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Originally Posted By JackieI don't know about your birth mom, but I gave my daughter up when she was born. I think about her every day and I will always love her. I have, after 17 years, begun counselling to help me deal with some of the same feelings that you are having. You may not think that this is the same thing but I think that adoption, for the adoptee and the birth parent, is a very hard thing to deal with. I hope that you can find in your heart to deal with these feelings and realize that you are loved and there will be someone out there who will fall in love with you some day. I don't want to sound like a parent , but, don't be in a big hurry to fall in love. LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO WAIT.
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Originally Posted By JessicaThanks for writing back. I totally agree with love coming to those who wait. I just want to feel wanted though. I just get so upset because a lot of my friends either have boyfriends or are getting married. I have two weddings to go to before November this year alone. And I just found out that my ex from high school is going to be a dad in January and it just makes me feel like I'm being left behind. They all seem to have they're own lives and I'm just in the shadows. I'm tring to deal with my feelings of abandonment and neglect and I do know that I was given a great life with my aparents but I still feel alone. I'm not sure how to fill that void. I guess I'll figure that out in time.
Originally Posted By JackieI hope that you will take your time, and really look at the things you want for YOU in your life. I not only think that love comes to those who wait, but that it will be everything that yoou have ever wanted. Plus, enjoy being young and carefree with no attachments. Before you know it you'll be settling down and looking back wondering what happened to your youth. I am 35 now, and I wish that someone told me that when I needed a friend. Instead I went out and met the first guy to say "I love you", married him and now I regret it. The only good ting that ever came out of it were the children that I now have. But I also know that I should have spent more time working on my feelings and my dreams instead of wishing for Love. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find what you are looking for. You'll be in my prayers.