Twins... or more?

My wife and I adopted twin four-year-old boys this year. It has been a fantastic experience! Everyone warned us the work would be more than double, the problems compounded, etc. It seems, at least so far, the only real difference between twins and non-twin sibling groups is (at least our) twins have a deep individualist streak. They know they're twins, and they're fine with it... but they do not want to be thought of as carbon-copies of each other. If one gets a new shirt, the other must have the same shirt, but a different color. Also, their personalities are not alike in the least. One loves art, gardening, horses, etc... The other loves sports, lizards, and the like. Also, with any sibling group, public adoptions are faster and easier, and the kids are typically deemed "special needs", so they receive funding for therapy, etc. Good luck!

Thanks for your reply! I have been reading a lot of different opinions and still haven't changed my mind one bit on wanting multiples.

Marfrey: Why not? I thought this too......the only thing, I remember in our most recent adoption, that while the baby was crying, I turned to my husband and said, ".....and I thought twins would be great?" I think if you are blessed with twins...especially as your first children.........you'll never know any different!

Linny - I definitely agree. If you're a first time mom and adopt two or more, you don't know anything different and have nothing for comparison!! But I can see if the adoptive parents are younger or aren't patient people to begin with, it might be overwhelming (not trying to make a blanket statement that offends!). But then again, for some even having one could be overwhelming. Always depends on the person(s) involved :-)

Marfrey...LOL.....I do that to my DH too. We had three foster boys, 1 (almost 2), 3, and 4. They had no bedtime routine and were not use to even sleeping in beds in a bedroom. Fun times! We are looking a 2 sbling groups that include twins. They are not babies! The is a huge difference! 2 babies IS more than dubble the work of one baby. Those who have had twins in my family have noted that as they get older (4 and up). They play together and can actually make for less work than say 2 siblings of different ages. Depending on subsity where the twins are you may need to consider the average cost of infant daycare is $145-$180/week per infant with small percentage reductions for having more than one child at the same facillity. No small matter. $1,200/ month is no small matter to anyone these days. SAHM/D may be a must! There are all sorts of resources dedicated especially to multiples. Seek them out and educate yourself. We don't all want the same things and do not find happiness in the same things. Parenting is a personal choice when it comes to method of getting kids (bio, fertilty treatment, adoption, stepparenting) , how many to have, what ages to adopt, and when to have kids, we all have to follow our own hearts. I'll tell you what I tell pg women. When you are about to have children everyone on the planet has advice for you. Listen to all of it because you never know who will say something that makes since to you, smile politly and say, "Thank you I'll keep that in mind." Then do whatever the heck YOU want to do!