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My name is Kristie. I am 32 years old and have recently found my birthparents. They are married with no other children and live about 1 hour away from me. I spoke to them on December 19 and I really thought on Dec 25th, she would call me again and she hasn't. When we talked for the first time, I felt it went well, but I was concerned because I had been looking for her and she hadn't been searching for me. We spoke for about 30 minutes and she told me that she wanted to set something up so they could meet me and she told me that we would talk again. She said that we had each others numbers and if I needed to talk not to hesitate to call. It has only been about a week since we have talked, and I have been really heartbroken that she hasn't contacted me since. My husband told me not to call her, let her call me being I found her. I really thought for Christmas she would have called me. Can anyone out there offer me sound advice on whether I should call her (them) or should I play the waiting game? I really need to know what is the most logical thing to do. :confused:
I am not an adoptee or a birthmother, but I am a mom so my advice is coming from my heart and not from experience. Since your birthmother already told you that she would call you back then let her. Give her as much time as she needs. I'm sure that is very hard since you have searched so long and hard to find her. I know the holidays are very difficult for some and that might be the case with your birthmother. She may be dealing with issues that you don't know about. If you are a praying person, I would suggest asking the Lord to give you clear direction and then peace with His answer! I would listen to your husband. He loves you and wants the best for you also, I'm sure. I'll be praying for your situation as well.
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Bran
Thank you for your comforting advice. I feel alot better and understand what your saying. Time and prayer will only tell. Thank you and Merry Christmas!
Kristie:)