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One of the big things is does the child learn from normal consequences? Does the child make eye contact? Will the child allow you to pick her up and hold her, or will she only let you hold her if she comes to you? I took a couple kids who were suppose to be attachment disorder that did have some attachment issues, but really just needed some structure and parenting. Some of my kids with attachment disorder seemed fine at first, but as we got closer to them, their fear and attachment disorder showed up in their every move.

Hi Ladies: Lucy makes an excellent point here regarding cause and effect - can this child respond to typical parenting? Behavior mod - positive and negative rewards, etc. Deborah, how old is this child? Also, an adult is given the diagnosis Borderline Personality Disorder if they have a true attachment disorder as a child. Is the mother diagnosed with this? Attachment Disorders range in severity. In fact, the attachment continuum runs from securely attached through degrees of attachment issues all the way to those who suffer from severe attachment disorder as in my son's case. We must also remember that a lot has to do with the individuals themselves - their physiological and psychological make-up, the type of environment they were in and the duration they were in that environment. The same environment will effect two children in different ways. Let me know how old she is - if she is a toddler, I have many nurturing activities that may help. Nancy G.

Ladies She just turned five. She lets me hold her and kiss her, she makes eye contact though the mother has attatchment disorder not sure if it is borderline or not.In my opinion she is just a child that had a troubled first 3 yrs and never was taught wrong from right and was left to do what she wanted. But her mother said she is attachment disorder, so I dont know. Thats why she gave the child up.