biological mom is in military

Originally Posted By lindaI HAVE TWIN STEP-SONS AGE 10, THEIR FATHER WHO I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO FOR 6 YEARS HAS HAD THEM SENSE THEIR BIRTH. THEIR BIOLOGICAL MOTHER HAS NEVER HAD THEM WITH HER. THE BIOLOGICAL MOTHER AND MY HUSBAND WERE NEVER MARRIED. THEY BOTH WERE IN THE AIRFORCE WHEN THE TWINS WERE BORN, SHE WANTED TO GIVE THEM UP FOR ADOPTION HE DID NOT SO HE TOOK THEM AND HAS RAISED THEM HIMSELF UNTIL WE MARRIED. WE HAVE ATTEMPTED TO CONTACT HER SEVERAL TIMES BY LETTER, WITH NO RESPONSE. WE DO NOT HAVE HER ADDRESS, THE AIRFORCE FORWARDS THE LETTERS TO HER, AND SENDS US NOTIFICATION THAT THE LETTER WAS SENT TO HER. ATTORNEYS HAVE TOLD US SENSE SHE IS IN THE MILITARY STILL WE CAN'T TOUCH HER, THAT SHE HAS TO VOLUNTARILY RELINQUISH HER PARENTAL RIGHT BEFORE I CAN ADOPT THEM. IS THIS TRUE WHAT CAN WE DO. I REALLY WANT TO ADOPT THEM AND THE TWINS WANT ME TO ADOPT THEM VERY MUCH ALSO. CAN YOU PLEASE HELP US. ALSO WHAT HAPPENS IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO MY HUSBAND BEFORE I AM ABLE TO ADOPT (LIKE DEATH) WHAT HAPPENS TO THE TWINS- DO THEY STAY WITH ME OR DO THEY GET TAKEN AWAY FROM ME, THEY HAVE A 3 YR OLD HALF BROTHER NOW? THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP!! LINDA