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Dear Birthmothers:
You are special and deserve to be recognized as the special birthmother that you are. Tomorrow Sat., May 10th is a day to do something special for yourself. Whatever that would be for you. Do the things that bring you peace and joy. Do the things that make you feel good for you. Please do the things that perhaps only you will know about that are meaningful to you. Soak it in! Really! Go for it!!
Go to that quiet place or beautiful place. Take a walk, see some beautiful scenery. Visit that special shop "you only go into when you are feeling you need a perk." Visit a beautiful garden. Smell the flowers. Something for you. For you are beautiful, appreicated and special. R-e-l-a-x. Breath deep. Get your nails done, read some poetry, love yourself. A day (even if only a hour) to pamper you in a special way.
I hope you will do that special "something" tomorrow Birthmother's Day, the day that comes first before Mother's Day for each of you are First Mothers! And very, very special ones at that!
Here is an article to read on Birthmother's Day from one of my favorite authors:
[url]http://www.adopting.org/Courtney/birthmothersday.html[/url]
Love and hugs to each of you,
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I am an a-mom and we are fast approaching the 1st Mother's Day since placement. Our adoption is not final yet. It is a semi-open adoption where we send pictures, video, letters, foot and hand prints, emails, etc to our daughter's b-mom. She is now 14. I feel it is appropriate to acknowledge her this Mother's Day. My husband is concerned it will cause her pain...which I would NEVER want to to!!! I am thinking of a card that lets her know we are thinking of her and that we love her. My husband thinks this might remind her of the fact that she no longer has her baby. I think she probably thinks about this to sme degree daily and a card wouldn't devestate her. I could be wrong. He said as a woman, likely have insight he doesn't and I should do what I think is appropriate.
Birth-mom's, what is your advice given the situation? She is very young and this is not fianl yet, although her rights have been terminated and the paternal rights will be terminated Wednesday. What would you like to have happen on this day? I would appreciate any advice you can offer.
Thanks so much!
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