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Christin Farkas replied on Casey Ellis's thread "Sibling Group".
We took in a 23 month old, 3 yr old and 5 yr old sibling group. All had been separated because the youngest was not thriving and needed special attention. The middle was aggressive and unsuitable with other children. The oldest was a little momma and was constantly controlling of her sisters. That being said, we took them together. They have their issues but they needed each other. Siblings fight, bicker, disagree and get upset at each other. They also connect, relate and rely on each other in a way another adult can’t. Siblings need to stay together and it will be an uphill battle to teach each boundaries, how to express their emotions and give each the love/attention they need. It can be done! Our girls are stronger and better adapted together. Best decision we made for our littles.
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Christin Farkas replied on Stacey Marin's thread "Fostering in a stationary RV/Travel Trailer?".
Christin Farkas replied on Megan Ferguson's thread "I need advice".
Have you told your step-sister about your plans? Would she let the girls go with you? Would your sister allow you to adopt them? Would not going make you regret having the girls? The girls will be difficult at times and it’s easy to say you’ll never regret it, until they are horrible to you for a week and you’ve had no personal time. Not saying you stop loving and caring for them but parenting is hard. You will lose a part of yourself for them. Do you have other family in the area to help support you? Would you have family/friend support in Korea? What would be best for the girls and what is best for you? Would the court let you foster the girls based on your age, status and relationship to them? I would ask family their options and do a whole lot of praying. Please keep us posted.
Christin Farkas replied on cookiemommakara's thread "Almost 12 and PURPOSELY peeing EVERYWHERE!".
Good oggly moogly! Sending you a big hug! Your not alone.I had a 4 and 5 year old that peed when angry or just because until they were 6 and 8! Here’s what worked.1. “I PEED” - kid “OK.” - me Then I walk away and ignore it. Peeing is to make me upset because something has upset them. Me ignoring the announcement takes the fun out of it.2. Pee cloths go in the trash at the end of the day before shower time. All of the pee cloths, even shoes if it’s peed in. Kids throw the cloths in the trash themselves. Momma doesn’t play in pee.3. Pee cloths get replaced with ugly cheap cloths from yard sales or the thrift store. Ugly can mean just something they don’t like. One of my babies hates purple the other must have sparkles on everything. Pee cloths are not pretty. Clean nice cloths are pretty. They have to wait until they haven’t peed for a month to get any new pretty cloths.4. Pee beds are cleaned by the kids. The new sheets are put on by the kids and pee sheet go in the washer. We ended up having to buy “ugly” sheets at one point when they both tag-team-peed us for a three week stretch! But after a month they got the pretty sheets back.5. If you pee out of anger or just for fun you carry a diaper bag with an extra pair of cloths and a diaper. The Pee-body carries this bag around for a whole week!The idea is to make the peeing bothersome for only them. It is an issue for them not you, so you have to pretend to not even notice the pee. When it get annoying for them and they get no reaction from you they stop. ... eventually.