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My foster brother came to us almost 11 months ago. My life has totally changed. He is 5 while my other siblings are in jr. high and up. I get tired of him a lot. He has RAD so he goes to therpy a lot. My mom goes with him. People don't understand either. At school, most people act weird about my foster brother. I try to be nice to him, but at times he is so mean! I try to talk to my parents about him, but they just don't want to hear it. Very confused about life
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i just want you to know that this could happen in ANY family...when my little sister was born it was really hard to "get used" to a new family member. That is very, very normal. Do you have another adult, maybe a grandparent or a teacher, that you can speak to and ask to help you with this? I am sure your parents really want to help your brother AND they still love you...both at the same time. It is never easy to have a change in our lives and now your parents don't have as much time for you...but that does not mean that you are not important or loved. Sometimes change can be great! I mean, now you have a new brother to love. Maybe try to get to know him better. Spend some time with him. When push comes to shove a brother or sister can be the best friend you will ever have. So while you might not see that right this minute, I promise you that with a bit of time you will learn to really love your new family member. In the meantime can you ask your mom to spend maybe an hour with you and ask her for some "mother daughter" time. Read a book together or take a walk. Just tell her that you miss her and know how busy she is but can you have just a bit of one-on-one time. And then ask your Dad for the same thing. I bet they would love to spend some time with you.
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I have an adopted brother too, who came to us about 8 months ago. Although he doesn't go to my school, and we will never be in the same school, and he doesn't have any dissabilities, I do know what you mean about them getting a bit annoying. My a.brother and I are 4 years apart and it seems sometimes that he gets EVERYTHING he wants and I find myself saying "I didnt get that when I was 12". I know the situations are quite a bit different, but in either case with having an adopted sibling they'll take away the spotlight just like a bio. sibling will do, and you have to try to just focus on other things and support your family in what they have taken on and try your best to help, while still making yourself known as a member of the family as well. Sometimes it's like being a parent yourself! hope I was of some help. Good luck! -Aleida [url="http://www.sibling.adoptionblogs.c"][/url]