2nd time for adoption

Originally Posted By BrendaRThink of it this way. You are more educated about adoption than you were when you were when you placed your first. How are tha adoptive parents responding to this?Are you going through an agency? What state are you in? Are you in a state that has open adoption agreements? (There are 5 NM< MN< OR< RI< and WA.)Read all you can on open adoption. The open Adoption Experience is the most comprehensive book I know.If you need anything, feel free to ask.

Originally Posted By AmyNo it isn't wrong. You may have realized since your first placement that you would be able to handle adoption with less pain with more openness. Are you placing with the same family as you placed your first child with? Check out www.linkadoption.com for more information on openness.

Originally Posted By JenniferI think you should ask for the level of openness that you feel you need to remain emotionally healthy, definitely. If you've already placed with this family and the other adoption wasn't that open, it may be difficult. Are they into having more openness, too? Many adoptive parents find themselves wishing for more openness once they get their new child home and start feeling that he or she is really "their" child and a part of their family.

Originally Posted By EliciaI placed a baby 2 years ago ... open adoption... i also placed a baby for open adoption( 3 months ago today). They are with seperate families but I am so happy that we all keep in contact. I could never have it any other way. My daughter who was born 3 months ago was born with a bilatral cleft lip and pallate and i am so happy to know how she will be afer surgery .. that is why i have chosen open adoption

Originally Posted By an adopteeI can understand the first adopted out child. to young or not married but,then you go and get pregnant again and give that one up also.you act like it's no big deal! do you think it's so easy for that child to understand ? it's an emotional roller coaster for some adoptee's for life! try birth control !!

Originally Posted By an adopteeI can understand the first adopted out child. to young or not married but,then you go and get pregnant again and give that one up also.you act like it's no big deal! do you think it's so easy for that child to understand ? it's an emotional roller coaster for some adoptee's for life! try birth control !!

Originally Posted By DeniseWhile it is true that Fathers are legally susposed to support their children, in reality many do not.Have you checked out the actual amount of assistance you get on welfare? It is a trap you can't pull yourself out of easily.Use birth control------don't get in that situation

Originally Posted By Michelle VSometimes placing a child is not only for financial purposes. We all know there are underlying circumstances in each person's situation that is beyond their control. I agree that financial assistance is out there and available. You should consider that if it is your only reason for placing. But there are times when a birthmom isn't emotionally ready for a child, whether she is able to support that child financially or not.I wish you the peace to follow your heart. Only do this after careful consideration. Examine all of your options. sincerely, michelle v

Originally Posted By DonnaI am sorry for your pain. I hope you may find some resolution. Most birthmothers place a child because they feel the child will be better off; financially, physically, emotionally, whatever the reason. I place my daughter for adoption because I felt it would be better for her to be raised by a two parent family. The same month I placed I conceived. The same questions arose for my son, wether to place or not because my situation had not changed. I did not have enough self esteem at the time to leave my abusive live-in boyfriend. We should not judge another for the choices they have made in life but appreciate the fact that because of adoption there is an alternative to the abortion. Your birthmother choose to keep you alive and nourish you for nine months. She loved you when she could have choose not.

Originally Posted By TinaI truely think I would consider you truely silly if you didn't. I too am going for a second. I want more this time. I am alot smarter, older, and things are much different now than they were the first time around. gl always no matter what, chin up :-)