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Originally Posted By MaryThis is from the book BEING ADOPTED- A LIFE LONG SEARCH FOR SELF, it's at the beginning of chapter 2.I think that everyone should read this book.It will let you understand why open & semi-open is so important to the child.written by Kate age 29 adopted at 4 days oldThe earliest memory that I have of my adoption is before I began kindergarten.I was in my grandmothers bedroom,upstairs,looking outside at the neighbors house.A girl one year older than I lived there.My mother came up behind me,looking out also,& said "See Kate? They had to take her.But we picked you out special."Special.This label haunted me.What did I do to be special?If I stop being special will I be sent back? Where's back anyway? I don't feel special- I don't feel any better than any other kids.In fact.I often feel worse.Why did'nt my mother keep me, like all the other kids mothers? What's wrong with me that she gave me away?
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Originally Posted By bm JamieI too have read this book.I too think that all triad members should read this.Here is one piece from the book that makes me strongly encourage open adoption.adoptee Kate writes:"One of the most important things to me in this world would be to be able to look at someone's face & see my own features reflected.To see a real,physical ,tangible connection in this way has become quite important.
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Originally Posted By Racheli agree, i too have wanted to know who i look like and who's attitude i have. And when people want to know my medical history i look at them so dumbfounded. I just want to know why i couldn't be like every other kid. My mom(adopted) always read me a book Why was I Adopted? I wanted to know why where we so different...