Dealing with comments on physical similarities

Originally Posted By AngelaHere's the situation: Because our oldest daughter, who was born to us, is practically a carbon copy of me, nearly every time people see us together they comment on how much we resemble each other. In fact I would say this happens about 98% of the time. Comments generally range from: "wow, she looks exactly like you", "she's the spitting image of you", "you can certainly tell who's child that is", etc..... You get the picture. Anyway, I know it is human nature to make these statements. I have found myself making the same comments about other's children. However, more often than not these comments are always made when both of my daughters are present and clearly our youngest does not resemble us with her beautiful black hair and brown skin. Of course my daughter and I talk about it, but I am searching for a good response to the many comments. Usually I respond with something like: "yes, and (this one) acts just like me", (which in many ways she does). Some people will get the hint and then comment on how pretty she is, others will still go on about other daughter's resemblance and ask if she looks anything at all like my husband. However, some of the books I have read recommend you not create similarities just for the child's sake. They need to feel good about their differences. If you create similarities then the child will feel like these are necessary to be a part of the family. Of course when I talk to daughter about our similarities I will relate them to specific actions, etc.. where we are the same. I tell her how "I did those things when I was her age", or how Grandma says "I did that a lot too". Still I'm not sure that I am handling this in the best way possible. I would greatly appreciate your thoughts on this.