Over 40 and homestudy

If you are adopting internationally, some agencies overseas will not work with couples of your age! Sad, but true. However, if you are planning to adopt domestically...most agencies/attorneys will work with older couples. It's NOT uncommon for us 'older couples' to want and adopt infants...so don't give up hope! My husband and I are both 47 and we just finalized on our seventh child (we have only four at home).......who is a baby. Our sixth child...now 2yrs old......was adopted as a baby too. Just do your homework.......work with agencies that don't ask for a lot of money up front (yes, there are some that only ask for the app fee of a couple of hundred dollars)....and will not ask for further money until the baby is totally free and adoptable. Best of luck. Please feel free to pm me if I can be of any help to you. Sincerely, Linny

Thanks Linny! I'm really getting a little overwhelmed with all of the info I'm reading with respect to choosing agencies, homestudies, etc. We're an AA couple in MD looking to adopt an AA infant, out-of-state if necessary. I'm finding alot of agencies with extremely high prices, exclusive rules, etc. At this point, a little insight from someone who knows the ropes is truly appreciated!! Jeannem

We are 55 and 56 and are adopting our 2 foster girls that we have had for 2 years. Parental rights were terminated in May and we will finish the adoption within the next couple of months. The girls are 5 and 8 and we have had them since they were barely 3 and 6. We have 5 grown bio children, have been married for 36 years. Never thought we would do this. But we love the girls and can't imagine letting them go. This is either going to kill us or keep us young! We get the "grandparent" thing all the time and in fact have 4 grandchildren these guys' age. They even call us grandma and pappy like are grandkids do. As foster children, we've encouraged it, but now we all have to transition to Mommy and Daddy. Foster adopt is sure a good way to go, especially if you want minority or other than infant. We have had the opportunity to have adopted a 10 month old and several toddlers, which we passed up. We really did not intend to adopt. These girls have been with us so long though, ... The other good news is that it is basically free though foster/adopt.

Thanks Mangy, Our hearts are really set on an infant now for various reasons. I guess the most of which is we don't have any bio children and are looking forward to experiencing the whole infant thing. Hopefully we'll pick an agency to do the homestudy where that won't be an issue. In the future however, we might consider adopting a toddler. Jeanne

jeanne, we just adopted at age 43 (both AA) and age was never an issue. ours was a domestic adoption of an AA infant working with a facilitator and an agency. good luck, lisaCA