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Hello! Now that there's no longer a separate IN board, I'm just looking here for fellow Hoosiers who have adopted or are in the process to communicate with! I've already talked to a few , but if you're in the state and want to meet more of us, show up here or PM me. If you're playing the waiting game right now, several of us have adopted within the past year and are very excited to share our experiences and try to provide some support!
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Thanks for chiming in! I'll let Marci add her two bits later. FYI, our agency quoted an 18 mo. average wait time, and we adopted in 8 months. We used St Elizabeth's-Coleman Pregnancy and Adoption Services (this area's Catholic Charities agency). I remember feeling so glad to get through all the paperwork and be approved and finally WAITING. But that could get frustrating, especially when we didn't have a support group or much contact from our agency. We did end up becoming friends who were on the same waiting list, and now our kids have playdates! Marci's tons of fun - we PM a lot, so feel free to PM me any time you need to vent or have a question. Will this be your first child? Good luck with your adoption journey!!!
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We checked into St. Elizabeth Coleman - we were told the same thing 18 months to 2 years. We wanted to speak to someone that had adopted using them but they never contacted us back. I wasn't very impressed with the person I spoke to. I'm glad you had good luck with them. My husband and I are using Kirsh and Kirsh in Indianapolis. We have friends that adopted two children using them. They were very happy with them. This will be our first child. It's a little scary but also very interesting. We have contact each month with Kirsh and Kirsh but it helps to talk with people that have or are trying to adopt. Our neighbors adopted two boys. They are very supportive and know what we are going through.
(I PM'd you regarding K & K and St E's.) Welcome! I hope your wait is a short one. It's great that you have neighbors who can relate. I bet they'll be a big help. Some of our neighbors were shocked one day to see a big "It's a Boy!" sign in our yard because they sure "couldn't tell I was pregnant". Ha ha! Another person drove by and thought one of our horses had a colt and we'd put the sign up as a gag. And we almost caused a wreck when a cousin drove by the morning after we'd brought A home because we hadn't even had a chance to call and tell them the great news yet (we were one of those last-minute, no notice kind of situations). SHe slammed on her brakes, tore in the driveway and entered the house sobbing like a maniac, she was so happy for us. Keep us posted on your journey!
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I don't think anyone will be shocked in our neighborhood when we adopt. I have told everyone. I also tell them "if you know anyone - let them know about us". I'm glad I told everyone but when I' m depressed when we haven't heard anything - someone will ask " how is it going?" and I have to explain we are just waiting. That hurts too.
Hi ladies!
Thanks for starting this thread, Storkwatcher :-) (we're friends through waiting with St. E's)
Oh the waiting! We tried to keep very busy during the waiting. I also really made an effort to spend time with my friends who weren't in the "kid phase" yet--some days (ok, weeks and months) it was much easier to hang out with my single girlfriends, where parenting wasn't a topic of conversation.
I wish you the best, and feel free to PM!
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That reminds me - does anyone have this month's Adoptive Families Magazine handy today? Somewhere (probably in small print somewhere in an obscure page/place) they had a web address that we could go to and participate in a poll on how long our domestic adoption took. I was online yesterday, but couldn't find the poll on their site and forgot to look at the mag today!
Hi everyone,
We have one son who we adopted in 2002. We have an open adoption with his birth mom and semi-open with his birth father. Now we are getting licensed to be foster parentrs and foster to adopt parents.
We practiced all week me and ds. to call his birth mom . but she beat us too it. when we called back she was gone but called back and we ended up finally getting ahold of her. she was thrilled to talk with ds.
and told me she is almost 3 months pregnant. she had asked us if we would adopt the baby. We of course said yes. What a wonderful suprise on mothers day!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Since it is so early in her pregnancy I pray she has a healty pregnancy and the baby is healty. also there is alot of time for her to think about if she wants to place or not. Either way ds will have a sib. and that will be something to celebrate.
I am 40 and dh is 43 We are in indianapolis area. anyone else in the indy area?
kim
I will never learn - here I'd typed up a whole reply and lost it... So here I go again. Oh my gosh, Kim - I have goosebumps!!! I will definitely pray for you and your son's birthmom and the baby. That would be so wonderful if she decides to place him/her with you!!! I often wonder if that will ever happen to us. What a blessing!!!!! We live near New Castle. One of my sisters lives near Speedway and attends St Christopher's. I have several other family scattered around Indy. Let me ask you - when do you find time to scrap??? Fortunately, I did many many pages before our son was born, so all I'd have to do is pop in the photos, but ever since I returned to work I've not found the time to do much. I used to do it during his naps each day the first couple of months. Some friends have a monthly scrap session at a church in Muncie on a Sat night, but I've missed the last two. Once in a while, 2 of my sisters will come over to scrap, but we've not done it in months. (Of course, that doesn't stop me from buying materials!!!!)
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Storkwatcher,
Thanks you for the prayers. We are so excited. I have not scrapped for awhile. but i usually do it when ds was in school or at night.
rjsmom You said you are out side of indy to the north, south east west? We are just inside of shelby county.
Bmom didnt see ds untill he was 2 years old. she was not ready.
We adoprted through kirsh and kirsh.