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Hello to you all. My name is shelly and at the present my DH and I are foster parents. Dh is stationed in Kansas and I am staying on in Kentucky in hopes of adopting a wonderful little boy we have had for 18 months.
Here is where we need help. we want to use a private agency and start the process of looking for an infant. It looks like we may be seperated for another year because of the foster care system here and want to, in the interum, do a private adoption. I looked at a site through here and I think it may be what we are looking for. what advice can you give me? also how much did the military really help. DH is in the Army if that helps. Thank you
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See the thread here about adoption leave; DOD policy is 21 days nonchargable once the adoption is complete. I find this to be a pretty big help. Our $2000 of adoption expenses have not been reimbursed yet, because our adoption won't be finalized for another two months or so, but that's a help too. Additionally, Tricare will cover your child pre-adoption. As soon as you have her/him in your home, take a letter from your agency or attorney to DEERS and they're covered like any other member of the family. Also, the military community in general tends to be very positive and supportive about adoption (at least at our base). I don't think we would have been able to handle the cost of a private agency on what dh makes as a SSGT in the Air Force. And, the tax credit only applies to those who pay that much in taxes; we get everything back as it is! It's tough to be separated for so long! I hope things speed up a bit for you. Good luck! :)
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This is rose32542's husband: I have all information concerning DoD Adoption policy's towards adoption expenses, adoption leave and the President's message concerning the passing of the House Resolution that the adoption leave policy falls under. Since we can't post documents here, if anyone is interested in receiving this infromation, send my wife (rose32542) a pm and we'll arrange how to get you the info. Take Care and God Bless!
Former Air Force wife here.....who's dh and I adopted our first two babies while being stationed in Okinawa, Japan many years ago.
I have no problem with it; but many agencies won't allow you to adopt an additional child/baby until after the one year mark of adopting the first child/baby. Again, I think this is unfair....but a lot of agencies do this.
Now, if you are adopting through an attorney....that is very likely a different matter. Totally private adoptions....w/o an agency, have a lot more le-way.
My suggestion is to make sure this agency won't have a problem with you possibly adopting another baby within the year's time.
My best to you.
Sincerely,
Linny
